Black Relationships : I have Question Part II

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  1. peach_so_sweet

    peach_so_sweet Active Member MEMBER

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    Okay I have a small ordeal and I really don't know How I should react to it. The guy that I am dating right now just told me he loves me and he really cares about me alot but he is in love with someone else, now I was speechless over the phone because I didn't know what I should've said. If you were in a situation similar to mine how would you react? :yesno: :yesno: :yesno: :yesno:
     
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    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Leave. Why share?
     
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    peach_so_sweet Active Member MEMBER

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    I care about this guy alot. It's kind of hard to start all over with someone else. But leaving is a good idea though. If I stay I know there will be more problems to come. :tongue2:
     
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    He say he love u yet in love with someone else !

    Love ...to be in love is giving whole hearted to one soul mate

    love II ...loving which is the easy thing to do with care, he so love you
    and care as friends pose to his in love with another mate or lover .

    between the lines he let you know he care the kind of love that say hey
    i'm your friend we can do this and that but to Love you i have a lover
    this a losing cause true he can love you and another as i love you from heart
    not the inner emotion soul and deep feling as mates but friends .

    Move on he's about to take you for a ride only to break your heart...
    If it was me i would know that friendship is at hand and he don't love me
    in the way of a togetherness a deep relationship or even long term commitment
    as lovers see like one playing the field for action through lines and passion
    i would say no if you (IN LOVE ) stay in love with the one you with and befriend
    to me as i would be to you , again why share and risk the other woman drama
    or chance maybe catching something from the tri partnership love splat of him
    and other lover .....This not love it's that he care for you but love someone else
    let it go now , no need to go deep and get hurt later .
    GOODLUCK with the lover lover drama
     
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    peach_so_sweet Active Member MEMBER

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    Thank you so much for your words of encouragement I really needed it. :huh: :spinstar: :spinstar: :spinstar:
     
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    More problem will come up is right. You have to care about yourself more. How can he love you so much if he's splitting his heart down the middle and handing you half of it? He's playing you for a fool. There are people out there that can love you a lot more than that because they'll actually love you exclusively. Don't waste your time just because it's harder to start over. You'll find that sometimes you have to start over to find what you lost on the way. That's where I'm at too. Starting over. Living again instead of settling for what's already here.....which turns out to be nothing in the end. How will you feel if he decides to give his whole heart to someone...and that someone is not you? Control your own life and make the decision for him since he doesn't have the balls to do it.
     
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    well, you can love more than one child.
    you can love more than one parent.
    you can love more than one sibling.
    but you can't love more than one friend?
    give me a break!

    the guy was honest enough to tell you how he felt.
    you should probably work with him to get a situation that you are comfortable with.
     
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    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I say this, if someone wants to date someone that is in love with more than one man/ woman...that's cool. As long as you're with that situation from the start. Don't compromise what you feel in order to keep this guy around. If you were ok with him loving someone else, then this thread would not exist. Be true to yourself and what you need out of this man. Don't compromise to keep him around today, just so he can leave you tomorrow.
     
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    You get 10 points for this answer Brother Kente...I'm in agreement.

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I'm marinating on your answer Brother James. I understand it and part of me wants to agree with it. But there's a little spark of selfishness in me that makes me want this man to be "in love" with me too if I feel that way about him. I'm asking myself is just "loving me" enough and I haven't come to any conclusion yet. Nevertheless, I'll give you some points though just 'cause I usually agree with you.... .0001 (which is more than you gave me yesterday). :D

    Queenie :thinking:
     
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