DestinyLove222 said:
I am 18 years old and I work at the public library in my home town. I meet this guy at the library and he is 25 years old. We hit it off really well and the other day I texted him and said that I am glad he is not the type to play games, cause I reallly hate guys who play games. Games are for kids. So he texted back that my friendship is too valuable for him to play games. I want to be more than his friend though, and I texted to him that I wanted to be more than his friend. He brings out a different side of me. I feel so happy when I am with him. What should I do? He has a good job, and we have so much fun together. I haven't had happiness like this in a long time.
Hello DestinyLove ...
I have to agree with Brother Sun Ship, i think this is too big of a gap, considering your current ages.
At 18, you should be thinking about college, or your future life. Are you going to college? You work at the library, that is a good place to work, especially if you're going to college!
The next few years in your life, is really the time to be laying the foundation for the rest of your life. You can have your life set, if you focus right now, and make good decisions ... but you must remain focused!
I believe the number one thing that keeps young girls from focusing, is boys. Now, it's not quite so bad if the boy is your own age, focused on the same things you are ... but a whole grown man ... 25 years old?!! No Sister, don't let him mess up your life, using you as some play toy ... 'cause you're really just a baby to him, or should be!
Why is he having to deal with 18 year olds? Why can't he get someone his own age? Is he too immature for women his own age, or do they too easily recognize his pitiful game ... 'cause it is game Sister, don't think otherwise for a minute ... game that is much easier passed off on a young, naive 18 year old than a woman his own age!!
Something is wrong with him that he is pursing you.
Not that you couldn't be all that and then some, don't misunderstand me.
But a man his age, that truly cares about you, your future, and the choices you make in your life, will not to try get with you ... but he would be trying to protect you from men his age!
I know it's hard these days, being 18, but Sister ... if you can, use this time to focus on you and your life and your goals ... don't let any man be central to your life right now, unless it is your Father or Brother!
25 year old males and 18 year old females = Single Parent Mommas, far too often.
Don't fall in the trap ... 'cause it is a trap.
You can say, "Destee told me!"
Destee