Black Relationships : I asked some brothas, whats the difference between thick and fat..Response:

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  1. PoeticManifesta

    PoeticManifesta Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hey yall...
    I hear this term so often now a days..
    "thick".. a curvacious woman
    and "fat" being an over weight woman..

    this group of guys ranging from 23-33 came to a conclusion that thick and fat is boils down to this phrase...

    "Thick women have thick thighs and buttox.... shapely
    fat women have big thighs and buttox.. unshapely....

    thick women dont have what appears to be "rugburn" between your thighs...


    To be politically correct.. and to represent more than just 6 guys..
    what do you all think?

    Ladies.. I would like you all to respond as well..
    but.. on the topic of not how you see yourselves..
    but how you see other women in our culture..
     
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    Sis, I think that's a subjective term. I have a neighbor and almost every time she see's me she says, " You always smiling, I like a man smiling". But she don't know what I'm smiling at. I like 'skinny' women, I prefer a size 12 or less, a 8 is perfect. But this sister is about a size? 24 or 30, if not more. I'm guessing but her measurments are like 50, 38, 54 and she looks good, no slop, when she stop, no shaking. So is she fat or thick?
     
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    Hey Sister Poetic:wave:. Every man has his own definition of thick. Most Black men see thick as a healthy rear end, a stacked up legs, and a "C" cup or higher, although I haven't encountered too many Black men who put a preference on a large chest.

    I would say a thick woman would range between a size 10-18, and has 2 of the 3 "thick qualities". Most Sisters do. I don't "judge women", but for an example...Raven Symone is 3 way "thick" (breast, thighs, and behind). Ki Toy is 2 way "thick" (thighs, and behind), and someone like J-Lo is 1 way thick (behind). And contrary to popular belief, "thick" is a not a code word for fat. IMO, it means a woman who is slightly larger than an athletic build. However, to each his own. If a man smiles while calling a woman thick, it's all good. Doing otherwise, should clue a woman in. To each his own:sand:
     
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    Peace Poetic,

    IMHO, the only difference is in the mind state of the brother you ask this ? too!

    peace
     
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    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This is very true!
    I'm a size 14 ,big bow hips and a big butt,some call me fat some say I'm thick. What really matters to me is how I feel about me.
     
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    If you feel good about yourself and are comfortable with your "thickness" tha's all that should matter.

    one love!
     
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    I don't use the term "thick" to describe my sisters.

    When I hear this term I'm reminded of lyrics from Jill Scott's piece, "The Thickness".

    The part that has stayed with me is:

     
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    Whewwww....*exhale*....

    Thank you for this....why do black folk continue to depreciate and diminish
    ourselves from human beings to tits, thighs, arse, penis etc.... YES, sistahs
    look good w/ our curves and such -- big curves, little curves, medium sized curves,
    thick, fat, athletic, whatever. But our true worth is in our minds and
    spirits. Until we learn to emphasis and celebrate that true worth we will remain
    forever STUCK in low self worth, low self esteem, low self expectation, and low
    standards -- which flows over into every aspect of our lives and the lives of those around us....
    Sistahs, It starts with YOU !!!
     
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    who really cares...
    it's the inside of a man/woman that really counts...
    too many cats get caught up looking for a rap video queen....imho

    one love
    khas
     
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    Always feel good about yourself whether fat, thick or curvacous my sistahs and don't let anyone label you. It starts with you! Plus I don't think the brothas would like it if we labeled them "stumpy" or "burly"
     
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