Black Relationships : i am wrong for being in love???

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by bahati, Jul 1, 2003.

  1. bahati

    bahati Active Member MEMBER

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    hi to everybody out there,
    the topic I wanna talk about has been discussed on this site before and I coulda added a reply but I wanted my post to be read and I want some response. I know pretty much that I'll get some negative ones but anyway. my question is do u really think that I am wrong for being in love with a black guy and for having a relationship with him for the mere fact that I wasn't born black??? what does it have to do with race if I fall in love??? everybody asks for equal rights and all that all the time but then when tolerance is required from them they just hate on me and I get snapped at like "***** why you stealing our men?" people please, I ain't stealing no one from nobody. I just happened to fall for a black person and he happened to fall for me. do I really have to walk around apologizing for that???
     
  2. NNQueen

    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Welcome

    Hello Bahati and welcome to our forum. :wave: Wow, you really wanted to be noticed didn't you?

    Well, I think you'll find the attention that you are seeking from the responses that you receive. People here are never shy about expressing how they feel and how they think. So this thread could get quite interesting to say the least.

    Since you've read many of the other discussions here on interracial relationships, I'm sure you anticipate receiving a lot of negative responses, and maybe you will. You sound intelligent enough to know that, at least in America, and among many sisters, this is a very sensitive topic. I'm curious as to why you would go through so much effort to come here and even pose such a question! Hmmmm...nevertheless, you did so that's a moot question I guess.

    Anyway, welcome again and I hope you receive feedback to help enlighten you about how people, here at least, feel about interracial relationships!

    Peace! :)
     
  3. PlayWitItPimp05

    PlayWitItPimp05 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    OF COURSE YOURE NOT WRONG BOO!!!! And you don't have to explain ANYTHING to ANYBODY!! All that matters is YOUR happiness, as well as your partner's. Remember, misery loves company. Don't let anything of the sort tie you down or get you upset. Nobody pays your bills on these streets...you don't have a **** thing to explain. It is quite a stereotype that black women take every black man to be "their men" and any other race trying to nudge in is 'just wrong'. But as with any stereotype, there will be some people who fit the bill. Just keep your head up high and try not to let negativity get you down.

    :heart: :heart: PLAY :heart: :heart:
     
  4. $$RICH$$

    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    welcome first of all to destee.com
    i hear ya and feel u within
    if you so loveth him and he unto u
    it don't matter of color , creed nor race
    love is a secret vow of two and heart felt emotions
    u may not be wrong for loving your choice of man
    in todays world we have many mix interracial relationships
    going on , no you don't and shouldn't have to walk around
    apologizing for how u feel & love to anyone but ya self
    sure you will feel the different affects from both sides of the coin

    not everyone see what you see nor feel what u feel
    but from past relationships of mix races it has friction
    of black men running to other races over their own
    as well as other ethics of women reaching out to men of color
    as a soul mate .......
    it's not wrong but what about if any children of mix blood
    and in today's world of how they be treated and feel of being
    mixed which side would accept them ??

    well sometime both sides will and in many cases both didn't
    wan't any part of the mix relationship that bare child or children
    it's what we pose and mentally think about going in
    it not wrong nor anyone falt that love drift in the fashion it did
    but to love and be loved in return
    what makes his love so much better then the own race of men
    none !!
    it's study to be the inner emotional feelings of how self heart
    feels and lone to be of such and this happens
    equal rights u have but in the act of such right what do one
    face .......see it's no place to judge or be judged
    one so pass judgement need to be judged them self
    for the acts of what is known as hate .
    again welcome to destee.com and thanks for expressing self
    upon us for answers
    we voice our words but the answer u so hold within your inner
    feelings & emotions
    some see it as where they never choose another over there
    beautiful black Queen
    as to where others has the play rights to journey into the next race
    this for both male & female
    I pass no Judgement upon one's heart of love
    happy to have you aboard upon family
    nice topic i look to read your true thoughts on this topic
    and others feedback
     
  5. SwtT

    SwtT Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    you cannot help who you love!!! :) Don't worry about other poeple, focus on your own happiness....the only thing you're causing is jealousy.....and so what if you are? yu're in love and it's a beautiful thing, regardless of what race the person is
     
  6. im_the_truth

    im_the_truth Banned MEMBER

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    bahati,
    I've never been to England so I don't know how bad blacks are treated over there, but they are done probraly close to the same, so in sayin' that I say this no you are not wrong for felling in love, the black man is wrong for allowing you to fall in love with him.
     
  7. truth05

    truth05 New Member MEMBER

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    Bahiti,
    I am sick of you slutty, **** sucking women stealing our men. but then again he's traitor so you could have him. good luck I hope you give him all the sex he ask for

    the truth can hurt
     
  8. $$RICH$$

    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    truth05..........welcome to destee.com happy you are upon us but we all have our rights to what we think
    but truely we do not attack members this is not allowed here
    please reframe such comment......
    Thank u
    C.L.M
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  9. bahati

    bahati Active Member MEMBER

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    thanks to y'all for taking the time to reply. special thanks to SwtT (you ARE sweet) and to PlayWitIt (for the encouragement). $$Rich$$ you are right: what ABOUT the children coming from these relationships, what side will accept them - this just shows that we have so much to learn still - ALL of us. We have to learn that we are all humans!!! to im_the_truth: i live in london and i've never come across any incidents like a black person being dragged along the ground and killed in the process, we don't have the KKK and the African people here came to the UK voluntarily.
    and the last thing goes to you truth05: your truth doesn't hurt me at all. all i feel is very sorry for you that something/ somebody obviously forced you to think that way. God bless you still.
     
  10. $$RICH$$

    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    word sistah .........we do have much to learn and much wisdom
    to aknowledge for the equalness of our children
     
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