Black People : I Am Me!

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  1. anAfrican

    anAfrican Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I was introduced to a really wonderful poster, by that "Most WonderFull Lady" I mentioned, and just had to share it:

    My Declaration of Self-Esteem
    by Virginia Satir

    I AM ME

    In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me
    Everything that comes out of me is authentically me
    Because I alone chose it - I own everything about me
    My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
    Whether they be to others or to myself - I own my fanatasies,
    My dreams, my hopes, my fears - I own all my triumphs and
    Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of
    Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me - by so doing
    I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts - I know
    There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
    Aspects that I do not know - but as long as I am
    Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
    And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
    And for ways to find out more about me - However I
    Look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
    I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
    Me - If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
    And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
    Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
    Which I discarded - I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
    I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
    Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
    People and things outside of me - I own me, and
    therefore I can engineer me - I am me and


    © Virginia Satir, 1975.

    Found in Virginia Satir, Self Esteem, Celestial Arts: California, 1975.​
  2. cherryblossom

    cherryblossom Banned MEMBER

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    Hmmm...Interesting source you supplied!

    However, if you're into Virginia Satir, here's more:

    "From "Self Esteem" by Virginia Satir

    Virginia Satir composed a list of behaviors that help a person "deal in a relatively competent and precise way with the world". She says that such persons will:

    be clear when they deal with others
    be aware of their own thoughts and feelings
    be able to see and hear what is outside themselves
    behave toward other people as separate from themselves and unique
    treat "differentness" as an opportunity to learn and explore, rather than as a threat or a signal for conflict
    deal with persons and situations in their context, in terms of how it is rather than how they wish it were or expect it to be
    accept responsibility for what they feel, think, hear, and see, rather than denying it or attributing it to others
    have open techniques for giving, receiving, and checking meaning with others

    Making Contact
    I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.
    The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand and to touch another person.
    When this is done I feel contact has been made.

    -- Virginia Satir

    To the above we might add this:

    Could You Just Listen
    When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.
    When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
    When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
    Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not talk to or do -- just hear me.
    Advice is cheap; 35 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same paper.
    I can do for myself; I'm not helpless - maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
    When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.
    But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get about this business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling.When that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.
    Irrational feelings make more sense when we understand what's behind them.
    Perhaps that's why prayer works, sometimes, for some people -- because God is mute, and He/She doesn't give advice or try to fix things. "They" just listen and let you work it out for yourself.
    So please listen and just hear me.
    And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn - and I'll listen to you."