Black Relationships : How would you feel if you was asked to get tested?

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    How would you feel if someone you were dating asked you to get tested for an STD? Would you be offended? Would you be down to get tested?
     
  2. Ikoro

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    Nah, sis.

    I have a rule that I ask all new partners to show me somekind of certificate or receipt that they are diseasefree - so I would be DELIGHTED if a Sister showed me that kind of responsibility and asked the same.

    Seriously, who has time to get an STD? It's scary fam (I might be saying that because I never had one, but still...) :( Also, what if you give it to your kids/next partner someday? And it is mad disgraceful to have to sit down every potential sex-partner before you penetrate and explain that 'uuuhh... I got this thing'. GAH-ROSE. (gross lol).

    A relation I know hooked up with a white man (boo!), fell head over heels (he's so nice to me pffft) and you know what happened?

    She got a variety of something called HPV (human papilomma fam). It's like genital warts, and it was CHRONIC. It took me like 10 minutes to digest her problem: it will NEVER go away and ALWAYS resurface no matter what kind of medicine she got. Oh shiiiiii :confused:

    This could happen regardless of what complexion your partner is. Imagine meeting a nice person, intelligent and sensitive and all that - and then you decide to just 'go for it' one of the nights you both agree to sleep together. Then BANG, you got burned and contracted a nasty germ that makes you smell, itch or what-have-you :'(

    Dang... all that for prematurely trusting your new bedmate. I had a child by not planning ahead and trusting a Sister, but that was an untimely BLESSING that I will always be happy to have in my life. Can one say the same when one gets a lifelong STD?

    Heh, I wish a Sister would get mad at me for asking. Let her go and sleep with someone else then.

    One,

    - Ikoro

    ps.: And admittedly, I am a tad irresponsible and prefer my intimacy raw - so my partners and I must operate on a strict trust. Am not taking chances when it comes to the people I love.
     
  3. Omowale Jabali

    Omowale Jabali The Cosmic Journeyman PREMIUM MEMBER

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    No problem because I would expect the same.
     
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    I would say, we should both get tested

    Unless you were telling me I needed to be tested because you tested positive

    :10400:









    :em0200:
     
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    Not at all.....I got my papers...He BETTAH have his!
     
  6. Ikoro

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    @kemetstry loooool

    One,

    - Ikoro
     
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    :SuN049:
     
  8. Ikoro

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    Come one now, why you gotta quote and re-post that, shucks :blush:

    But it is true though, I ain't ashamed to say it. That might be why I don't take chances and get it on with strangers.

    One,

    - Ikoro
     
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    ...just get the at home HIV testing kit...
     
  10. Ikoro

    Ikoro Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    @blackeyes No doubt black, I see it now:

    Female: Mm, beloved, I feel ready and willing - let's consummate - physically speaking.
    Male: Whoa, queen - PAUSE. Are you... infected?
    Female: Naaah, I'm good.
    Male: Let's find out *whips out HOME HIV TEST KIT
    Female: OW! Did you just puncture my fingre for a blood sample?
    -4hrs later
    Male: Hey sweetie, tests are in!
    Female: Zzzzz...

    -_-

    One,

    - Ikoro
     
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