Discussion in 'Black People Open Forum' started by skuderjaymes, Feb 17, 2010.
Do you have any regular contact with other Africans?
I'm in Oakland and we have very diverse group of Africans here.. I have
Muslim, Christian, etc.. everyone is friendly and gets along..
it's cool to be able to talk to folks about what's going on in the world.. you
know.. me and Haitian talked for a good hour about what's going on and has
gone on in Haiti.. I can talk to the Eritrean and the Ethiopian about the
conflict between their two countries.. or about just anything.. just sitting and
talking really does something.. it's interesting too how we are all attracted
to each other.. that we all sort of congregate and commune the way we do..
It's also interesting to find that many of their families are facing some of he
same predicament as their american counterparts.. particularly with the young
men going to jail, etc.. It always trips me out when I see an Ethiopian cat
with his pants sagging.. one thing I have noticed though is that it's the boys
that seem to be the most affected.. the women all seem to have it together..
as for me?
I know a few, but to be honest I dont socialize much with them..
Yes, I have a couple good friends that are African (Nigerian)...
I am very social with Africans but maybe I should not say social, social seems to be not the right word for me. I actually see them as family, we eat together, go places together and count on each other for assistance. We cry on each others shoulders if need be etc. Yes, I am very familiar with West Africans with the exception of the handful of South Africans that I know and a few from Kenya and Uganda as well.
I have to agree with Skuder on that the men are not as fortunate as the women from Africa, at least as far as I can see. In fact, the men seem to count on the women a lot. There is the one exception to the rule however. If the man came to this country first, he takes care of his wife and family back home, and if he sends for his wife, she will be dependant upon him at first, but it doesn't take her long before she does not need to depend on him anymore. That puts me in the mind of the African American mans plight, to be counted on to take care of his family but due to the way this world is ran, often time, the black woman is given more opportunity than her counterpart. This shouldn't take away from anything though, as long as the two are way ahead of the game, that situation could actually benefit them. Being ahead of the game is not what we see happening, what we see is the man becoming jelous of his wife or the wife becoming flippant with her husband.
There are 3 African families on my street. and an African restaurant in our community. I have only met one of the families, they are Ibos from Nigeria. One of the young men in the family and I car-pooled to a class during the fall.Since the young man just arrived in the states last year, it was fun to watch him adjust to normal to life in Chicago. It was also funny when an Older single woman in class was checking him out, I'd never seen a 28 year old blush and giggle and be thrown off his game as he was. Actually he has no game, many women should find that nice. There also is a young Yoruba man I worked with and attended his fantastic wedding ceremony.
yes i have a few that i socialize with ....Nigerian / 2 from kenya a couple from Haiti
I have no problem getting along with people i've even worked with a few.....
First of all:
An intriguing request...
Second of all:
I do have my own take as well...
Not to digress (too much)...
My adult lifetime of experiences with africans at best is mixed:
A few I could relate to and visa versa...
A few I couldn't relate to at all!
It does seem and sound that only one or two truly saw us and them as related...
More to (and my) point:
It has been my experience and observation etc. that as some here only did (or do) see the nations on the African continent as a means to their ends, Africans who come here feel and think likewise...
Only some traditional African chiefs etc. feel and think a need and a want to make amends for the enslavement of our ancestors and/or their exile in the Americas etc:
Otherwise via my past contacts etc. with continental africans, only our complaints and gripes about white folk here did or do matter, though the flip side is those africans who do feel and think too many of us do protest too much about them as well...
You see this with Dominican Women, after they go to the US, here they were taught to take care of their man,even though they too are working. There they learn that they don't need to and can probably get along better without him, so they do.
I have friends that are mostly Nigerian,and I have a friend from Kenya as well. We get along great, I have to say most of the brothers & sisters from Africa I've met most of my life have been Nigerians and Ethiopians.
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