One of my distant great uncles is a polygamist. He has 49 wives. He is in his mid 80s and the 49th wife is a beautiful nurse in her late 20s.
The most surprising thing is not that he has 49 wives. I guess there are a few more others in that league. Atleast I have heard of one with more than that number in Nigeria.
My relative is special because NONE of the 49 wives has ever left him. Some of them have been with him for over 60s.
In a world where many men cannot keep a relationship for 2 weeks, I always wonder how he has managed to keep 49 women loved and happy for so long.
My point is that the issue of loving a woman is as complex as the universe. There are no straight off-the-shelf formulars that one can apply.
Like my polygamist relative says, "know yourself, your partner and let her/him know you and in that knowledge, be one and the same"...or try to be one and the same...meaning, keep a level of trust that is unbreakable (or atleast near to it).
My twenty cents...
Asego