Black Relationships : How to get ya man, to go to church?

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  1. sweet apple*pie

    sweet apple*pie Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hey ladies....
    Have you eva had a man, or HAVE a man, who you tried to get to go to church with you?

    He either flat out said no, or always had some excuse?

    He always says, "I need to start going to church" when bad things go down
    but his feet neva make it there?

    You try to convince him, how going to church, will make you stronger as a couple, or for some, think its the answers to your relationship problems??

    whats the deal with this....?
     
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    Hi Sweet Apple*Pie

    I'm not a woman but if I may be allowed to share the wisdom of my experiences it may help you solve your dilemma...I will start with questions.

    First: What is it about this man that attracts you?

    Second: how important is it for you to attend and be involved with church?

    Third: have you discussed what your man's relationship with God is like from his perspective?

    Fourth: if your man decided not to ever go to church or become a Christian how would this affect your relationship?

    Five: knowing what the scriptures say about people that are unevenly yoked how important is it too maintain a relationship with your man?

    Six: Is church the only place a couple can find principles and guidelines for a successful relationship?

    I will not share my feelings on the church in this thread, if church brings you joy and fulfillment in your life than I'm happy for you...Depending on how you answer the question I've asked will indicate where your priorities are as it relates to your relationship...After that you will have some decisions to make...


    Peace....
     
  3. cursed heart

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    Can I be honest with you?
    Why do you think that going church will make your relationship better?
    How about having a better relationship with God individually first and than together.
    What you need is not in a building or in a book but in your spirit/heart.
    Going church will only change him if he believes it will.
    I know alot of people/couples that go to church and did nothing for their relationship once they left the church doors and reality stepped in.
    If he does not want to go don't make him.
    If he wants to go he will go !
     
  4. sweet apple*pie

    sweet apple*pie Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thanks for the love, yall
    This thread is really not about me....I just have had good friends, and co-workers that talk about this, and was wondering what the deal was....you know how women talk....thanks for the tips tho.....
    the last question was "what's the deal with this?" Cuz I dont understand....
    :spin:
     
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    how to get...

    i'd go to church with my wife in a minute....if beyonce was in the choir[smile].
     
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    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    You so crazy:darts:
     
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    Well to keep it real. Back when I was whoring, way back in the day...church was my number one spot to go to. Why? Because I learned from experience that the losest and freakiest women you could want were in there. They were in there repenting for their loose and freaky behavior the week before...and I was there to make sure that they did it again next week! Bottom line; If you want a serious woman, church is the last place to look. As all things can never be 100%, there is room for error in this post as all things do not apply to all people.

    But in general, any brother who has been around knows that what I just stated is the truth.
     
  8. sweet apple*pie

    sweet apple*pie Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thats DEEP! :thinking: Dang! It may have been just a bit off center tho....
    I just wanted to know how women try to get their man to go to church...
    not where to go to pick up ho**! TMI <LOL>:x:
     
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    sweet apple*pie Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    :lol:

    Yea BOY you are crazy!!! But I understand....Beyonce is a beautiful and talented sista!
     
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    How if they are spiriturally connected , beyond that he won't go
    until he's ready to join or ready to seek his saviour.................
     
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