Black Spirituality Religion : How to get rid of negative people in your life?

[cursed heart]

We discussed grounding for oneself.
I've pretty much mastered that.
What I don't know how to do is make sure these type of people stop crossing my path.
I feel that for some reason I am always attracting people that need my councel and never a councelor.
The energy in my home has really started to depress me since me my mom,sister and nephew moved in with me.
I try to stay positive especially with my daughter going back and forth to the hospital but it is very hard!
I need a place besides my astral experiences to bring me to a special place of peace.
A place where the negative energy doesn't dwell.
I don't feel free.
I feel overwhlemed and exhausted.
My exhusband has been absent from my daughters life for two years and poof a month ago my aunt runs into him and tells him my daughter has cancer and he's back in her life.
I mean I'm even giving advice to my exhusband about his new wife.
Why is he calling me so much telling me his problems and resorting back to when we were married?
I don't understand where my life is going now.
What direction and where will it leave me?
It seems like everyone in my family is sick.
They don't want much and they are happy being that way.
I try to take care of my mother as much as possible but she is a very negative person and likes being sick.
How can I get happy,energetic,possitive people to surround me?
With everything I am dealing with I still manage to make a joke and make time for others!
Is there a solution to this?

 

[PurpleMoons]

Oooh thats a tough one!

Sometimes what works for me is expressing myself in the mist of all
the confusion. Letting everyone know just what I'm feeling.

Other times I have to look for the positive in a situation. Focusing soley
on that. Accepting that everyone is not going to approach things
like me. Everyone is not going to understand where I'm comming
from or want what I want.

If I'm having a stressed day, I tell my family, "look, I don't feel good today.
I got alot on my mind right now. Please just give me some space and
time so I can work this all out. I'd breathe in and release all those negative
energies out. I take as many breaths as needed until I feel myself becoming
humble again.

Once I've gained control over my emotions, I find that I'm a lot more accepting that people are going to be who they are, and a lot more
stronger not to let their emotions become my own.

Negative energies will always cross our paths, is up to us to decide
whether we're going to string it along for the long haul. Positive energies
are always comming our way too. We have to learn how to grab a hold of
it when our resistence is low.

 

[cursed heart]

Oooh thats a tough one!

Sometimes what works for me is expressing myself in the mist of all
the confusion. Letting everyone know just what I'm feeling.

Other times I have to look for the positive in a situation. Focusing soley
on that. Accepting that everyone is not going to approach things
like me. Everyone is not going to understand where I'm comming
from or want what I want.

If I'm having a stressed day, I tell my family, "look, I don't feel good today.
I got alot on my mind right now. Please just give me some space and
time so I can work this all out. I'd breathe in and release all those negative
energies out. I take as many breaths as needed until I feel myself becoming
humble again.

Once I've gained control over my emotions, I find that I'm a lot more accepting that people are going to be who they are, and a lot more
stronger not to let their emotions become my own.

Negative energies will always cross our paths, is up to us to decide
whether we're going to string it along for the long haul. Positive energies
are always comming our way too. We have to learn how to grab a hold of
it when our resistence is low.

Yeah I understand completely!
I do tell them quite frequently.
It's hard being the weight of the family.
Everything around me has changed.
I walk 4-5 miles a day just to get away from my house for a while.(I've lost 30 pounds)
I surround myself with music as well.
Family is one of those energies positive or not that you are morally suppose to except.
They help but also hinder.
I think this is alot for me at 31 to handle alone.
I am not sure how to channel my frustration sometimes.
It comes out in anger when I address them at times.
I know people will not be the same as me but the obvious should never be ignored.
I say negative because it seems like they are never really happy.
That energy is in my house.
I can feel it the moment I step in.
It's gloomy and still.
Like a dark barnyard during a winter storm.
My house even smells different.
It's like I can smell,feel their unhappiness and it sours my stomach.
Dealing with my daughters illness is enough.
I am trying to be strong for everyone especially my baby.
I've completely transformed since she's been ill.
As far as my health goes and I want to keep reaching foward.
Right now I just feel like I'm reaching.

 

[Metaverse]

Greeting Sistah CursedHeart.

You are asking "How to get rid of negative people in your life?" But in this case, those negative people are your family, and we can never rid ourselves of family unless we move away from them. Which doesn't seem like an option for you.

For you, the best statement is, how to transform negative people into positive people. "Positive" meaning more conducive to your state of mind and energy.

Your family has entered into your comfort zone. A place where you went to get away from the outside, and even to deal emotionally with the illness of our daughter. And now when you enter this place, forces you have no time or energy to deal with are waiting for you. Your Ex Husband has resurfaced with needs. Your daughter had needs. Your family has needs.

Perhaps this episode was created to show you that you may be a Mother Universe manifesting inside a female body. People will always need you, no matter where you go. Its the nature of who you are. But this is only something I am telling you, you must find the truth of that for yourself.

You have to start delegating. Give responsibilities to your Mother and Sister.
Your shoulders should not feel as heavy as they do now. You should not have to tense up when everyone is around. You need you full energy for your daughter. Find responsibilities for them that will draw out positive energy from them. Even if its to amuse yourself.

For your Ex Husband, there is a part of him you understand better than anyone else, again- because of the nature of who you are. There's nothing wrong with what you are doing, unless doing so is too much for you at this moment. And if so, he should understand if you decide to cease giving him advice.

You know, I believe in holistic healing, and I understand the conditions of my hospitals in America only help people get sicker. I wish there was more I could do personally in this regard. If at all possible, seek alternative methods for
your daughter's health. Find local healers that can help you. Your insurance may not cover it, but the very little you might do, might help allot.

She is a dare and precious energy, with the light of your soul in her. But I can also feel her pain, she is irritated by it. She is irritated by your pain also. You have a beautiful bond with her, and she usually feels what you are feeling. Mommy you have to find love and peace too, because that will help her to heal also.

 

[truetothecause]

Sis. CursedHeart...

Thank you for posting and asking this question.

Sitting back "listening to learn and learning to listen"