Black Relationships : How to Communicate with your man?

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  1. Princess

    Princess Active Member MEMBER

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    We all know that a man's communication language is different from a woman's communication language. Men how do you want us to communicate with you without nagging? Problem#1: If i want my man to call me and check up on me everyday, how would i tell him to do that? Problem#2: If our communication isn't good enough for me an i see were its needs improvement, how do i suppose to address the situation with my man were he can improve on his part?
     
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    as a general rule, we men do understand the English language. :hearthis:

    how does a man become "your" man without communicating?
    the only way a female gets more than five minutes of my time is because she is communicating with me.

    i don't understand how you ladies have men all up in your stuff and be saying they don't communicate.
    i wanna know, how did they get up in there?

    as a man, i wouldn't be into no one unless the communication was clean, crisp and clear.
    sounds like you need to back up and do your homework. :read:
     
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    Monetary going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Princess

    I can feel this is about to get out of hand quick. (See previous post by male :lol: ).

    Men and women are different. That's very true....and thank GOD for that.

    Suggestion #1: Women should just say it or ask for it. DO NOT HINT. If he's your man, he should understand. However, don't be malicious. That's very unnecessary.

    Suggestion #2: DON'T ASSUME THAT HE SHOULD KNOW. This one will save you a lot of grief. :lol:

    Peace, Fam.
     
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    if all else fails, just withhold sex. :hammer:
     
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    Now brother James, why you gonna say something like that? Just cause you celibate don’t try to keep the rest of us brothers from getting some! :hammer:
     
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    My Gyal Communicates with me like so:

    1. She speaks what is on her mind.

    2. She lets me ramble until, I get tired and then corrects me in a nice way.

    3. She challenges me to communicate to her in an effective manner.
     
  8. Princess

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    What im talking about is when you have expressed your feelings (in a non-nagging way) of the do's and dont's with the man and its still like you're speaking spanish to him. I guess what im sayin is, what is the best & effective method of communicating were he can stop them bad/old habits. Example: I refound my love after 2 years and we made plans, the day of the plan in which was made by both of us (agreed upon) he didn't call me, he didn't say i'm not going to be able to make it (just simply nothing). So i called him afterwards and he said that he was at work and once he got off he was very tired. I'm like ok, but.... on your way home u could've easy called me and said something. I guess this goes back to being Courteous of your spouse/partner!
     
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    Touching a man mind is just like a man fully understanding a woman
    which communication is the key factor and working jointly as mates
    if you seem to not be able to reach him mentally or spiriturally then
    his communication line is off and very weak or simply don't care

    Do know one can love you and don't care !
    be direct and set your standard and the answer will revil self within .

    Good Luck ! on the lack communication.....
     
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    Don't waste anymore time on him. Obviously, he wasn't thinking about you. Forget him and focus your attention on someone more deserving.
     
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