Black Relationships : How To Ask Him

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    I go to this small group of Afrikans that get together to practice and learn about Afrocentric spirituality.

    One of the sistas and I want to go to a local club to hear her friend play and sing. The first time I went I was just laughing at all the white people trying to dance. So I was telling her we should get up there and dance. Then we spent five minutes trying to think of who we could dance with. We decided to ask two of he guys from our Afrikan group.

    I think we are both kinda nervous about this. But we are going to do it. The worst they can do is say no, right? But I'm not a pro at this. I can flirt with cats around here knowing that I will never see them and the back button is always at my disposal. But now I am talking about guys I have to see on a regular basis. So what's the best way to approach my preyxxxx I mean potential escort? Should I smile demurely, bat my eyelashes and say "Would you rescue a damsel in this dress?"

    Brothas especcially, what are some cardinal do's and dont's when a woman asks you to go out with her?
     
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    relax, keep it light.......
     
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    Be prepared to pay, might be his weekend before payday!
     
  4. river

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    Of course if I do the asking I will have the bank. And mad bank at that.
     
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    See I knew if my brotha james ansers this everything will be cool

    Thanks

    ps. do you still have that forty bucks?
     
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    River just be yourself and like James said keep it light.......don't worry bout it or put too much thought into it..just roll up or call or whatever and say "Hey you want to go out ?" that's it.......you'll do just fine .......Hope yall have fun.........and I too love to watch white folk dance it's better than any comedy ever put on TV....


    MississippiRed
     
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    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    Hey MississippiRed,

    Haven't seen you in a long time. Thanks for the advice. I feel lighter about this already.

    Hope you've been doing well.
     
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    You are right, the worst thing he can do is say no. So just keep it real with the brotha, it's not like you are trying to marry him or anything. The ball is in your court.
     
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    You gon' let us know how it turned out... or? :love:
     
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    make that plural.......