Black Relationships : How much to spend on an engagement ring?

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  1. Nfant_De_Milieu

    Nfant_De_Milieu Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    How much should a guy spend on an engagement ring for his lady? I read some where that a guy should spend like 2 or 3 months salary, or maybe that was probably just a cat who sells rings. I think that the price of the ring should not matter too much because it is more symbolic but donot want to be a cheapskate. What about things start to go sour and she does not want to give the ring back! You know she just going to pawn it anyway. Now the guy is left with a whole in his bank account.
     
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    Hello Nfant_De_Milieu :wave:

    Thanks for joining us and becoming a part of our big happy Family! :love:

    I would think that it depends on things that only you are privy too ... such as ... how much you can afford, what type of ring you want her to have and what kind of ring she wants. It's a personal choice. Some people have no great interest in diamonds and gold. Some may be happy with a gold band and of course there are those that will not settle for anything less than the biggest diamond in the store. I've never heard that a man should spend 2-3 months salary on the engagement ring, until now. The two of you should make this decision together, trying to consider all things.

    Most young couples planning marriage have a host of expenses and should be reasonable with all purchases. If God blesses and your lives together are long, the opportunity and financial ability to easily buy her a bigger and better ring will be an option in later years.

    If you do give her an engagement ring ... and the wedding is called off ... you can insist on the return of it. I think a court would uphold your request, perhaps depending on the reason the "agreement" was not fulfilled (at least that's what happens on Judge Mathis). Of course this is extreme and hopefully the two of you would be able to part in the same loving and reasonable manner you came together.

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    I think a $2500 ring is acceptable. At least, I'd accept it.
     
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    The Diamond companies pumped up the two to three months salary to sell diamonds...too often we let outside influences affect our decision-making. Go with what you like, not what others feel you should have. I think a gold band is beautiful, especially if the couple has matching bands.
     
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    now a price is of da heart u pose for your mate
    and reality of it has a lot to do with the pocket
    base on what's best at that time
    it's not the size of the diamond but the warmth it brings
    to a mates heart
    some love a band with chips of diamonds some love the 1/2 diamond
    but remember you are the buyer the mate so don't let other
    tell you what's best or what ya mate would want
    the price for it is up to your pocket & what u can buy
    love is priceless if he or she love u then the amount don't
    matter
     
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    I wouldn't care if my "ring" was a tattoo...as long as his committment to me was strong. I don't really wear much jewlery as it is...but sometimes I feel rings and wedding are only for show.

    Whatever he chooses to spend on the ring is fine with me. If I know he picked it out, and he liked it - I'm cool with it.
     
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    Spend as much as you can afford, and no more than that. It doesn't make sense to me to break the bank on a wedding ring (or the wedding itself). Save the money for the house & the kids.
     
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    i am dropping a cool 20,000 to 250,000 for my wedding set which consists of:

    A Platinum Diamond Ring
    Platinum Diamond Earrings
    Platinum Diamond Necklace
    Platinum Diamond Bracelet
    Platinum Diamond Toe Rings, Belly Chain and Anklets

    If she cheat she die. joke :)
     
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    If she cheat....you'll die, when you think about the $250,000 rolling around in your head, ...instead of your pocket :laugh: :laugh: ...joke
     
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    Well said...I totally agree, for he need only to wear his "heart"...around my finger.
     
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