Black Relationships : How much should be spent on a wedding?

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  1. poeticdelight

    poeticdelight Member MEMBER

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    Based on the fact that at least 80% of America today is in
    debt, why wouldn't eloping be suitable?

    Once the couple has paid off a significant amount of their
    debts and saved up enough money, wouldn't they be able
    to afford a fancy wedding at a later time?

    If it is acceptable to buy her a gold band instead of a diamond,
    then a simple ceremony for the couple to elope should be just
    as suitable as well :)

    Ladies and Gentlemen let's hear from all of you :toast:


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    pd
     
  2. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    well i thinks as much as the two people want.....but after all you dont marry the dress or the patry.............
    but....the person
     
  3. Kitana

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    pd..I'd have to say I think it would be totally up to the two people involved...but considering the money that can be spent on having a big wedding with all the trimmings, I think it's much nicer to have a small, close family gathering that is not as formal...like getting married in a nice garden or park, by the sea etc...with everyone sharing a simple meal and enjoying each others company....I know a lot of women today want their big day to be special, but I think it can be special without all the expense....personally I was married by a marriage celebrant in a court house office and then my husband and I along with 11 close friends and relatives had dinner at a lovely restaurant with a guitarist playing songs by request...it was a beautiful, intimate way to celebrate our marriage... we did this because we were just starting our lives together and had been working toward setting up our first home which we were able to do if we did not have an expensive wedding...I realise this isn't every girls dream wedding, but it worked for me.....

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    in todays time and so much hardship at hand
    i feel the two can get married with family & friendz
    for far less and have a very romantic honeymoon

    sure most would love that glamor type wedding
    but for me something simple and sweet will work
    why pay a arm & leg for a few hours
     
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    Kitana Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Elmo

    as with all things in life,(with one exception), love is no exception..there is no guarantee...

    K
     
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    Elmo i agree with you here
    truely love has no guarantee
    that's why many people get married at city halls
    and small family weddings
    now you hit some key points
    marriage comes with hope & togetherness as well as
    emotional feelings ..
     
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    yes love has no price or tag !
    it's very open that we look into the pocket
    but being their before i also looked into the
    true meaning of vows and to secure the bond
    we pose upon , as well the compassionate ,emotional & safe harbor of us both
    but yes it's true we all look at the cost and some seek savings
    and others look to a beautiful honeymoon away so they spend
    less to be wedd.
     
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    Regina Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I think a wedding should be a personal event. It should reflect the personalities of the couple. Both the woman and man should participate in the planning. One of the loveliest and most sentimental weddings I attended was at an old historic African church on Dafuskie Island near Hilton Head. The traditional "Gullah" reception held outside was wonderful.

    I attended a wedding like a Broadway show and just as expensive. Then the couple went to live in an apartment.
     
  9. jusme

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    Eloping seems to be most suitable, for ma, neway. After that I'd have an "announcement party" and announce that I just got married.
     
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    A couple should spend a few dollars on a wedding and the rest of their lives on a marriage.
     
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