I must say that bringing a man into your life when the kids aren't his are tough. Men dating ready made family is common now. I find that kids now don't like the boyfriend/husband you choose, and causes frictions in the home. It is a constant battle to try to keep the peace. I'm sure alot of us can relate to being in a step-family situation. As a kid it is hard to follow or listen to someone who is not your biological. Kids have even driven their mother's friends away to keep them all to themselves while they have their happiness. Is it selfish of us to want our parents to remain lonely while we have relationships. Can the children give up on love when we mothers' feel they can do better than who their with? I find myself asking these questions because choas is part of your life. The kids refuse to respect him, and the hardest part is trying to bring everyone together. So ladies would you give up dating or sharing yourself if your kids don't want you to love nobody else. Or would you wait until your kids were grown until you decided to date. Time is short for me, and everyone wants to have companionship, friendship, and so forth. Tell me your thoughts on this.......