Again, this works for me. I am not telling anyone what to do: (1) I address ALL AFRIKANS as "Brother" and "Sister". I have done this for over 25 years and it fits me like a glove. IMHO If you dont say it, you won't act it. (2) I act like the AFRIKANS who either serve my food or make up my room in a hotel are ROYALTY! I not only tip them but I also COMPLIMENT them. Why?? First off they are my sisters and they deserve it. Second, maybe this will be the ONLY time all day that anybody says to those sisters "you look very nice today sister". Many people look down ther nose at them. Not your boy! They are QUEENS! (3) I allow NO AFRIKAN to bow and scrape. Whether it is the brother who does my shoes ( I bring them to him, he will never be at my feet) or the brother or sister asking for change on the street or subway. I tell them too that I love then and they are my people. No groveling needed. (4) I speak to young people. Ask how they are doing in school. Making sure they are doing well in school and hanging out with decent folks as well as listening to their parents. This is just day to day stuff that works for me. I dont waiver. if you are ever with me, I act this way as second nature. And guess what? At the end of the day I can rest well.