Black Parenting : How do you spank?

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  1. Jillrogers

    Jillrogers New Member MEMBER

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    Hand belt or paddle? Pants up or down? Over the knee or standing up? And is his/her tush red after?

    im a new mom and i plan to spank
     
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    When I ever HAD to spank my daughter I always spanked her on her bottom but her pants were always up. I never left a mark...To me that is too rough on a child...
    Plus, you know how some folks see that and run to a phone to call CPS

    Now I just give her "the look"...and she understands what that means..."I'm not in the mood"

     
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    Welcome to Destee.com Jillrogers,

    Good to have you and hope you like us...For 3 yr. olds, maybe a light paddle would do, it just depends though.


     
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    Hello and Welcome Jillrogers

    I think its depends on the child, some children all its takes is a look, some a firm spoken no/stop, some a smack on the butt and some a dang good butt spanking! Based on my experience as a mother of two, if you start disciplining a child early and be consistent, IMO there will be less need for spanking.

    You’ll discover a child will begin trying a parent at a very early age, so its important to establish the roles, me PARENT, you CHILD early in the relationship. Trust me, it will lesson future battles. :)


    Again Welcome to Destee's and CONGRATULATIONS on becoming a mother!!!!
    Motherhood is an amazing experience!

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    I'm sorry...

    All that type and I didn't answer your question. LOL!

    I spanked my son and daughter on the butt, however, my daughter was very spoiled with attention(first granddaughter) So she was a constant challenge. Especially with her mouth, so I smacked her in the mouth when she was about 13. At the time, it was VERY necessary and it solved the issue.

    As for paddle, belt.. don't recall ever using them and never pulled their pants down.
     
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    I am a parent who has only had to spank my child twice and she is 17 now. When I spanked her as well as spanked my nieces or spanked the friends and family children, it depends on what part of the body they did the crime with and how many times they did the crime after being told not to more than once.

    How many times I have to talk to them will determined the weight or heaviness of the spanking. If the crime was done with their hands, I pop the hands a few times and if the crime was done with their feet or mouth, I'll use a plastic ruler to pop them hands with. If crime was done with the feet, after spanking hands with a ruler, I will make them sit down for a while after the spanking until I feel that they understand what control of the feet means. I'll even ask how are those feet doing, are they understanding the importance of feet control...LOL


    Sometimes you get a real testy kid, who you just have to go straight to spanking on the behind which I will do but if they have on jeans, they don't really feel a hand spanking and I haven't felt the need to use a belt for trouble shooting that situation because my hands are pretty good and don't leave marks. The ruler, you have to be careful that the ruler lands flat and not slightly tilted because it will leave a slight welt.:)

    However, just like Coco said, if you start them young, with the look and a change of tone in your voice, you won't have to spank them, that is until they try and test your look and change of tone to see the potentials of what that look and change of tone means. Once you show them what it means, they will shape up. Good luck with your parenting.:)



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    I spank to let them know i am in control and the parent
    if the child is messing with something then spank that hand
    next time they will think about it , when they have done something
    yes spank with pants on , I never like to use objects like paddles or
    things that can break skin or leave marks belts are good / small my hand

    Spanking is showing you love them because you care to let it go/ slide
    send a message i don't care then it get worse .....Good luck New Mom !!!
     
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