Black People : How do you find people who share your ideas?

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  1. ManicRaider

    ManicRaider Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Before you ask, no I am not trying to use this site as a dating service. Let me explain, for a long time now I have been struggling with my identity. So I've been trying to find someone to reach out to but it's difficult. I don't want to stereotype my own people but the black people around my age are probably in a gang or are a bit rough around the edges. I'm not like that. I'm an easy-going kinda guy. I don't want to be in any rough scene or be with a rough crowd. So maybe an older crowd is the answer. Nope. The older crowd (at least in my area) are uber-religious. That's not my scene either. They're not very proactive and they don't see the world as I do. I see things as random. I see life as something that is untamed. They see it as something shaped by God/Jesus specifically for some unknown reason that you have to pray to understand.

    Now here's where it gets interesting/depressing. I have seen people who I have a lot in common with. But they're white. That's not a problem but I don't want to become one of those people who starts to snub other black people because I think I'm above them or something. Plus where I'm at it's not easy to distinguish who's cool with black people and who aren't. The whole situation sucks. I don't have enough in common with my own people and the people who I have things in common with may not want to be associated with me. Basically I feel all alone.

    Does anyone have any suggestions for me? Should I start a club/meet up spot? Should I try it in a grassroots fashion and make it seem important to the community or should I be more subtle and make it seem like a meet-up type of thing? How do I address the race issue without offending people or making them feel left out?
     
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    Corvo navigator of live MEMBER

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    It can be a lonely world out there.
    I have never fully fit into one group of people.
    I am not talking about race either.

    For example, I love Martial Arts, but an all African MA group is very hard to find. And then it might have exstreem views, that overwhelm the practice or training in a negative way. Or being part of an African-american alternative group and they may have a christian based out-look on reality.

    The thing is no one group of people can satisfy all of one's needs if one is very brought-minded. I have found a small group of friends that I have made from encountering them here and there, by chance. One could call them AA, but they come from very different backgrounds, they are educated but see outside of the box, for their parents grew up outside of this country. one was a military brat, born in Panama.

    It takes time to find like minded people who can identify with what you believe in and identify themselves in a similar fashion.
     
  3. jamesfrmphilly

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    throw your ideas up against the wall and see what happens….
     
  4. ManicRaider

    ManicRaider Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    They'd just make a bunch of noise.
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    :qqb009: can't be worse then what has already been seen here...
     
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    Network.

    Chances are the people you know, know people you want to know.

    But stay away from Whites.
     
  7. Omowale Jabali

    Omowale Jabali The Cosmic Journeyman PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Alumni functions and community events such as art and jazz festivals or book fairs, museum exhibits.
     
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    • Bookstores/Library
    • Jazz/blues lounges *not clubs*
    • Meetup groups in your area (meetup.com has groups, and you can look up groups specific to your areas of interest...)
     
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    is church safe to be on the list?
     
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    Sure it is, I just don't advise it to or for other brothers, not at least if they are trying to meet women.
     
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