Before you ask, no I am not trying to use this site as a dating service. Let me explain, for a long time now I have been struggling with my identity. So I've been trying to find someone to reach out to but it's difficult. I don't want to stereotype my own people but the black people around my age are probably in a gang or are a bit rough around the edges. I'm not like that. I'm an easy-going kinda guy. I don't want to be in any rough scene or be with a rough crowd. So maybe an older crowd is the answer. Nope. The older crowd (at least in my area) are uber-religious. That's not my scene either. They're not very proactive and they don't see the world as I do. I see things as random. I see life as something that is untamed. They see it as something shaped by God/Jesus specifically for some unknown reason that you have to pray to understand. Now here's where it gets interesting/depressing. I have seen people who I have a lot in common with. But they're white. That's not a problem but I don't want to become one of those people who starts to snub other black people because I think I'm above them or something. Plus where I'm at it's not easy to distinguish who's cool with black people and who aren't. The whole situation sucks. I don't have enough in common with my own people and the people who I have things in common with may not want to be associated with me. Basically I feel all alone. Does anyone have any suggestions for me? Should I start a club/meet up spot? Should I try it in a grassroots fashion and make it seem important to the community or should I be more subtle and make it seem like a meet-up type of thing? How do I address the race issue without offending people or making them feel left out?