Black Relationships : How do you feel about successful Black Men dating White woman?

[Loveall20]

I want to know why anytime something in the media is
presented about a Black male entertainer involved with a
white woman alot of black woman seem to lose their mind.
I visted a message board discussing the recent issue with
Kobe Byrant and their were so many replys of Black woman
expressing that that's what Kobe deserves getting involved with a white woman.I know many have their personal feelings
about interracial coupling but it seems to be at maximum when
Black man of high statis are dating and marrying
white woman in the international eye.
Black people have stuggled to open these doors for years,
and now that we have and these Black man are put on pedestals
by the public my question is do feel that they are saying
by dating even marrying a white woman that "O I'm too good for you now". Does this make you feel like he thinks we as black woman are inadequate?He is the bomb now and so
we are less and he needs more?I personally don't have a problem with interracial dating but I do have a opinion when it comes to Black male entertainers (strictly) dating white woman when they get money and fame.
What are your personal
feelings on this issue?

 

[ifasehun]

i think just as many black women are dating white men. i think some among us are negative and have gender-hate issues - so we relish the opportunities to spread such useless cliches.

black people that are not politically conscious date whatever and whomever.

Useless Urban Legends about Black Men:

1. All thug rappers are actually gay.
2. Most successful black men date white women.
3. There is a huge hidden populace of secret gay and bi-sexual black men that are dating women or married.

If any of the above are true:

1. Assume safely that if you boyfriend, husband, son or nephew likes gangsta rap, he too is probably gay too.
2. Sending your son to college will result in interracial children. so we collectively dont approve we should get our children involved in crime early and make sure they stay illiterate.
3. We should start putting lo-jack tags on all mens ankles to monitor their whereabouts when they are not w/ their spouse or girlfriends.

stop w/ the generalizations. its getting tired. stop bashing black men!!

 

[Destee]

Anaksanamun ... beautiful post ... Thank You.



Destee

 

[Mahogany_Brown]

I think if we understand the dynamics of what each of us was born into then we can understand why our people act the way they do and their behavior will not be suprising..

 

[Queenie]

This says a lot to me

Anaksanamun, thank you for the eloquent and thorough explanation.

Originally posted by Anaksanamun
But there is a solution. As the Black nation becomes more and more aware of self, and gets back to the pride and self-actualization that we had before we were divided and conquered, then the Black man as well as that angry Black woman can find who they are and let go of the self-hatred, and the jealousy. When these two roadblocks are conquered, then the Black man and Black women will come back together very naturally, rich and/or poor, for no other reason than that they don't have to, but they want to.

Ifasehun...concise and to the point...powerful!

Originally posted by ifasehun
black people that are not politically conscious date whatever and whomever.

I agree with both.