my first wife was a virgin when we met...but she was realistic, as well. six months into the relationship, she came to me: "Baby, i know you have needs...and, if you need to, i'm not opposed to you fulfilling those needs with someone else...coz i can't help you. i only ask that you not keep me in the dark about it." she wanted me to be discreet...but she wanted to know because she didn't want anyone throwing stuff in her face she didn't know about. of course, i took her up on it. three years into the relationship, she was ready. five years into the relationship, we were married. twenty years, and two kids later, we divorced. BUT SHE'S STILL MY BEST FRIEND. Tried to give me marital advice, when i married my current wife; they went shopping together when we visited, over the summer.
i'm not saying that's the route you have to take. i'm just saying that it's something you have to be committed to...to be successful at. i work with a twenty-six year old virgin, from Ghana. she's very strong...and committed. and she's happy in her skin....and value her flower, greatly.
stay encouraged.