Black Relationships : HOW COME SISTERS ARE NICER TO WHITE MEN?

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  1. bigtown

    bigtown Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    HOW COME YALL ARE NICER TO WHITE MEN? MANY BROTHERS NOTICE THIS TO0. YOU'LL SEE A WHITE GUY OPEN A DOOR FOR A SISTER, AND SHE'LL BE ALL SMILES AND SAY THANK YOU. WHEN A BROTHA DOES IT, SHE MAY NOD HER HEAD AND RUN THROUGH QUICKLY OR JUST WALK THROUGH AS IF HIS CHIVALRY IS JUST SOMETHING TO BE EXPECTED. IF THEY'RE IN A GROCERY STORE CHECK OUT LINE, IF A WHITE GUY SAYS SOMETHING TO THEM JUST TO MAKE SMALL TALK, THEY'RE ALL SMILES. YET WHEN A BROTHER DOES IT, THEY ACT AS IF HE HAS SOME HIDDEN AGENDA.

    WHAT'S UP WITH THAT?
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    self hatred and ignorance.
     
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    BIGTOWN I gotta feelin' you betta git OUTTATOWN 'bout now :eek:hmy:

    Peace!
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    Brother Big....hmmmm....let's try to be a bit clearer when we ask that question, please. Are you implying that ALL Black women respond this way to men who open doors for them? Be careful now and really think about that before you answer because I suspect that I know the correct answer already. Besides, if I was a man and saw this happening, I wouldn't waste my time wondering about those types of sisters. I certainly wouldn't make an issue of it unless you could prove that this happens 100% of the time by 100% of the Black female population. Do your facts bear this to be true?

    Peace,
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  5. bigtown

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    PARDON ME IF IT SOUNDS LIKE I'M IMPLYING THAT ALL SISTERS ACT THIS WAY, I'M NOT. PERHAPS I'LL USE ANOTHER EXAMPLE AND TRY TO KEEP MY FOOT OUT OF MY MOUTH. I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FEED BACK FROM THE BROTHERS THOUGH AND SEE IF THEY FEEL ME ON THIS. I BELIEVE THAT MOST BROTHERS HAVE WORKED WITH A BLACK FEMALE WHO IS A LOT FRIENDLIER WITH THE WHITE MALE CO-WORKERS THAN SHE IS WITH THE BLK MALES. OR THE BLK FEMALE BOSS THAT RIDES THE BROTHERS, BUT IS A LOT MORE CHILLED OUT WITH THE WHITE CATS. DON'T GET ME WRONG, I DON'T SPEND MY TIME WORRYING ABOUT THESE KINDS OF BLK WOMEN, I'M JUST MAKING CONVO. AS FAR AS ME NOT MAKING AN ISSUE ABOUT IT UNLESS IT HAPPENS 100% OF THE TIME WITH 100% OF BLK WOMEN. WELL, NOTHING WE DISCUSS HERE HAPPENS 100% OF THE TIME WITH 100% OF THE PEOPLE.
     
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    Seems to me you posted this on the wrong forum... shouldn't it be in the "BROTHERS" forum?

    Anyway, I smile and say a gracious thank you to ANYONE who holds a door open for me, be it an old white lady, old black man, young child or whoever. Color doesn't have a bearing on common courtesy.

    Overall, I'm pretty friendly and make small talk with anyone who is also equally friendly.

    SOME PEOPLE have an attitude period...black, white or other...and don't appreciate the small things people do out of simple kindness.
     
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    Brother Big....hmmmm....let's try to be a bit clearer when we ask that question, please. Are you implying that ALL Black women respond this way to men who open doors for them? Be careful now and really think about that before you answer because I suspect that I know the correct answer already.


    UH OH, THEY LADIES MAKIN BIGTOWN FEEL LIKE A smalltown RIGHT ABOUT NOW. I CAN SENSE MORE SPANKINGS TO COME.
     
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    BIGTOWN...

    I feel you, bruh. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.

    There's this Sista who works as a janitor at my place of employment. She swearssssssssssssss up and down that most of the white men where I work is so nice and sweet. She always come and give them hugs like they'r really cool. So, I tell her some of my experiences with these same white men she's so coolllll with. She argues with me. Tells me that I'm wrong. And, I give example after example...after example of what their true character is like. But, she ignores me. He's even given her the cold sholder...straight ignored her. She brushes it off as he's under pressure and can't handle. Let a Black man be under some pressure like that. She'll probably say he's a punk. :lol:

    See, you have to understand. Some Black women aren't treated negatively by these White men in order to see what's really going on. As long as a White man treats them nice, then they think that THAT white man is cool.

    But, I've had Sistas speak to me with a smile...and some look me right in my face and didn't speak. I just chalk it up to a bad day.

    But, Big...I agree with you. There are SOME Sistas out their who do treat white men nicer on GP than they treat the Brothas.

    Dapz.
     
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    *passing around the kleenex to da brothas and offering them some cheese to go with their whine* :bawling:

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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    I TAKE IT YOU THINK WE'RE PARANOID, HUH?
     
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