Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by Quokka007, Aug 10, 2016.
How can I avoid attracting guys that just only want me for sex?
don't dress sexy...
Its going to be hard to avoid attracting guys, but, always make them wait, and remember, once you make them aware that you are a virgin, they will usually leave, lol, thus revealing their sex-only motive. After hearing your sexual status, any guy remaining after that is probably not just there for sex ... Hope this helps.
Just say no
when he brings it up, tell him how religious you are
always wear body suits that DOES NOT have a crotch clasp
Don't send out all the wrong 'messages'. Not easy I know.
When a man wants to take you out and spend time with you, that is a good sign that he is not in it just for the sex. If the two of you have dates that do not end up at his home, your home or the hotel, especially in the beginning of the relationship, that is a good sign that he is not in it just for the sex. If he spends time with you, your friends and your family, that is a good sign he is not in it just for the sex. If he goes places with you to spend time with you, the movies, out to eat, church, or anything that you like to do, he is interested in you. Yes, he is attracted to you but he will put in the time to get to know you and he will respect you.
I had a friend who had a man that was into her. He took her out to eat, spent time with her family and friends, when her birthday came, he took her out and gave her a gift. He loved to talk to her on the phone and after they were friends and dating for a year, he expressed interest in marrying her. They later married 2 years after that, and so far they are happily married for 2 years. But they were friends first, they respected each other and she is a pastor so there was no sex before marriage.
Now at the same time she was dating the man she Iis married to now, she was also dating a man that was nice but when her birthday came, he said Happy Birthday but did NOTHING to celebrate it with her whereas the other man celebrated with her on her special day. Now that her and the man that celebrated with her are married, he is a good provider, he takes care of her and their family and they travel every year. He treats her very well and is committed to her and only her.
If you are dating a man your relationship should be focus on getting to know on another not sex, although sex is important you have plenty of time to discuss this, take your time and get ti know one another , you know after being around a person for awhile if you want to invest time in that person.
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