Black Relationships : How can a brotha tell ...

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  1. MrBlak

    MrBlak Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    How can a brotha tell when a woman has filed him under "F" for "freind but I dont like him like THAT" ????

    What are the signs that a woman will give that man has lost and will only be her "buddy", shoulder to cry on, or someone she "loves like a brother"?

    Men--tell me what you noticed before getting shot down or quietly rejected.

    Women--give me as much info as you can about what goes thru your head in making the choice.....I promise to use the info for good, not evil. :grin:

    Thanks
     
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    Hello Mr.Blak

    I can think of one hint I find myself saying to let him know that I'm not interested in a relationship. If he says things like, If I was your man I would.......... I usually try to laugh it off and say something like, You are so crazy or you are going to make some women very happy. If he's very persistant, then I just have to gently tell him that I'm not interested and I love having him as my friend.
    If I think of something else, I'll be back to post it.
    Okay here's a few more! If she always say no,maybe another time, or when you are talking, she easily becomes distracted, or if she is always talking about other guys around you.
     
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    hummmm! intresting question i'll sleep on it and come back but do hope to hear more ladies speak out on this hot topic here ! .......Look for my reply back brutha
     
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    I usually cut these chicks, women and females off within 24 hours so we do not even get to this point.

    However the signs usually is the lack of interest in ever wanting to take the friendship to the next level.

    That is why I say twerk em and leave em.
     
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    I'd just cut to the chase and say that I see him just as a friend. Now, maybe that is something that could change over time, maybe. How do you tell when someone isn't being honest, or doesn't want to hurt your feelings? I guess you just have to ask point blank for the truth.
     
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    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Wow, this is a good question. It has been years since I was last "shot down" so I'll have to think about this one....I guess at the top of my head I'd have to say it is a sign of disinterest if she stops calling as often. If she starts talking about other men with you....well, it doesn't take a genius to figure that out. Hmmm.....I'll come up with more later.
     
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    LOL@ Brotha Pan you alright with me.
     
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    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I agree, if a woman talks about other guys in front of you, that's a definate sign. If she asks advice about men then that's one. If she's always with another chick whenever she goes out with you that's one also. If she openly stares and makes comments about other men in your presence...then there's no hope.
     
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    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Indeed Kente....Indeed!
     
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    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Keep the responses coming people... This is hilarious!! :lol:

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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