Black People : Homosexual Perception & Differences Male/Female

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  1. medusanegrita

    medusanegrita Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Why do people treat homosexual and bisexual men different from homosexual and bisexual women? Is there really a difference between the two, or it all based on community and societal perception?

    What I've noticed or questioned.....

    Bisexuality is accepted among women, but not men. Men will knowingly accept women who been with other women, even be turned on by it; but a woman will not accept a bisexual man. Once you've crossed the line of sleeping with a man, you're deemed 'homo' and that's it. No women wants a man who was slept with another man.

    Is there even such a thing as a bisexual man? Or is that just a stop over to full fledge homosexuality?

    Lesbian has been perverted for male pleasure. Not no man will accept that a woman can be a full fledged lesbian - either they think they she will go 'both ways', do a 3some, or engage with another women for their own pleasure.

    Do this trivialize 'true' lesbianism? Are men threatened by homosexual women and have to put in the context of patriarchy where they can filter and control it?

    Why is a gay man viewed in the context of being a 'soft like a female' and 'well if you gonna be a woman, I'm gonna treat you like a woman!' and are often raped by heterosexual men? IOW, to demean a male is to make him into a 'woman'..... and by sexually assaulting him?

    This definitely trivializes and cheapens womanhood... even by the so-called 'conscious' brothas and sistas.

    Why are women really scared of the so-called DL phenomenon? It is because their perception of what a man is or what he should be.... is tainted by thoughts of him getting it in the rectum? But why?

    Why are homosexuals outcasted on the basis of anal sex when...
    1) - heterosexual couples engage in it.
    2) - according to some studies only 25% engage on anal sex.

    I may have more to include as this discussion gets going, but that's all I got so far.
     
  2. awo dino

    awo dino Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Phew! too many questions, sista.
    Most men have the fantasy of a threesome - with two women. So, when they see to hot lesbians, their imaginations go wild. Nothing sinister.
    alaafia
     
  3. ru2religious

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    I'm usually in agreement with you but on this one I have to disagree because majority of the brothas I know think it sick to see to woman together. I remember my first experience with a porn tape when I was 15. I saw two woman together and I was disgusted. I thought that it was sick then and still do today. I think society has made it acceptable for woman in an attempt to further destroy the woman without any racial target. Nevertheless, it will effect our communities greater then any other community.

    I think that many brothas are picking up on the Western sexual cultural likes and dislikes. As for me I think its ugly, but if your talking about the fantasy with one brotha and two woman - of course that is a fantasy and I had it when I was younger but my fantasy didn't include two woman indulging in physical contact with each other but me.

    So in essence I think that its disgusting and I treat it no different then I treat homosexuality between men. I mean don't get me wrong - after listening to some medical studies that some people can be born this way I've learned to pretty much accept it as some peoples nature.

    Peace



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  4. MsInterpret

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    Like Ru2Religious said...I know guys who don't find two women together appealing...They find it appalling.

    However....

    I don't get what some guys find "sexual" about two women being together...

    I have heard some say they like how two soft girls are touching other...Whatever

    Most women (young) do it for the attention...making out drunk in the club/parties...for pictures...I think it's tacky...

    I don't want to see those pictures just as much as I don't wanna see two dudes together...

    BTW....Not all women are "soft" LOL
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    threesomes good......:slobber:
     
  6. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    2 guys 1 girl?
    2 girls 1 guy?
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    threesomes good!

    i prefer two guys (DP) but i done both ways
     
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    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Wow! You're an adventurer
     
  9. awo dino

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    bro ru2religious, i was talking about the male fantasy of two women, and how that can relate to men accepting two women together. They imagine themselves in the middle. It's funny though; I bet if you saw two ugly women together you'd feel a lot different than if you saw to pretty ones together. Which backs up my point. Personally, I have had threesomes. I prefer one on one. But hey, a little variety is ok. I have done the two guys one girl thing too (when a young man) but its not my bag. I spent the whole time making sure the other dude never touched me. lol.
    But I'm curious about you saying the majority of brothas you know find it sick to see two women together, and its the same as seeing two men together. I don't find two women making out a turn on, but it doesn't gross me out like seeing to men. I'd say you are part of a very small minority.


     
  10. awo dino

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    C'mon sista MsInterpret, you've never gotten adveturous?
     
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