I'm doing some research on the matter of homophobia in the Black community and wanted to collect some opinions on the matter. So, let me set up a few scenerios... "Please don’t bring up that girl to me anymore." "She is my best friend. All I said was that she decorated my place. What is your problem with her." "I told you I don’t want to talk about it." "Don’t bring your homophobia in my house (under her breath)" "What did you say?" "I said don’t bring your ho-mo-phobia in my house." "Ain’t nobody scared of gay folk. I just don’t agree with her lifestyle. It’s wrong." "Her lifestyle? So you don’t agree with her owning a successful business; her paying her mortgage; her taxes; her going to the grocery store; her washing her car; her getting her oil changed… Her f*ing lifestyle? She does every thing you do, everything I do; including falling in love. How the hell is her lifestyle any different from anyone else’s?" -------- "Look." "What?" "You see those two girls over there?" "Yeah" "They're dating." "Um, ok, that's nice. Really, none of my business." "I was just saying" "It's cool." "You not with that, huh?" "With what?" "You know. Personally, I don't agree with their lifestyle, but I mean gay guys make great friends, they say." "Oh. Ok. I probably would not have put it quite like that." "I mean, I feel like those people.." "Those people?" "Yeah, gays." "You should be careful about your word and euphimism choice. You might be offending someone." --- Questions for thought: There is some dissonance about the word "homophobia." In your opinion, what is homophobia? Are you guilty of being homophobic? Would you be offended for being called a "homophobic?" Are Black people more likely to be homophobic than other ethnic groups? Either way, is that a fair assumption to make--that Black people are more or less likely to be homophobic? Do you have a relationship with an individual who self identify as member of the LGBTQ (lesbian gay bi-sexual trans queer) community? If so, how has that relationship changed your view or conception of others in the community? Happy Postin'