A female aquaintence of mine asked me this question here's her question and my responce " UPPIE I would like to know exactly what a man means when he says a woman is "high maintenance". Does this mean she requires too much attention? (If a woman likes occasional flowers and gifts for no reason) Is this too much work? Or does this refer to the woman who must have her hair nails and toes done on a regular? " It means both! When you spend a lot of time taking care of yourself you expect to be taken care of in the same fashion. Our(MEN) main concern however is how much time and money is required by us to maintain a relationship with YOU (FEMALE)! Most men will steer clear of a woman that requires high maintenance. Flowers, candy, a concert, a dance and an occasional trinket is cool. ( we'll give you that as a sign of commitment and affection) However when we start breaking up the group to do things with you, that require more time then we want to share. Or if we have to spend more money than we think its worth, just to be in your company! That's what is refered to as high maintenance! And the final factor, and its the lowest common denominator! " Is the coochie worth all this trouble?" Because when we (MEN) break it down its not so much who you are and what you do, its what I am getting out of what I am putting in. We can move on to someone who isn't about all the EXTRA'S, and just wants a friend, a man, a lover or a companion. And there's never any mention of maintenance at all. We just maintain! FELLAS am I RIGHT? LADIES what your maintenace level?