How comfortable are you with the women in your life having male friends? Do you believe that it's possible for members of the opposite sex to be friends with no intentions of ever going any further or do you subscribe to the thought that the only reason a man is friends with a woman is because he's hoping to go further? Several of my closest friends are men. A few of them are married now and most of them have significant others in their lives. In all cases, we were friends before and remain friends now and the women in their lives have no problems with it. One did have a girlfriend who put more energy, I think, into figuring out if something was going on with us than she did building their relationship. I even talked to her and back away from spending time with him, but it didn't seem to work. Needless to say, she's an ex now. I usually bring this question up with guys who show interest in me because just as I have no plans to drop my female friends because I'm with someone, I have no plans of dropping the male friends either. Many say right out that they find it disrespectful should I spend time alone with another male, and very few say it's okay with them. I often think that the ones who say it's okay, are not being completely honest with me. What do you think? Have you been in this situation before?