First, Please do not judge me and Second thanks in advance for the guidance and answers to my dilemma I am 40 years old SBF with no kids who met a SBM with no kids at my part time job but at the time had a Caucasian girlfriend, whom he was living with. Well over the year that we worked together, we talked and and got to know each other pretty good....even when out for a couple of drinks after work....Well one night after work at a bar, we kissed..Yes it was wrong...and I know that and it never happened again...However he did confess that he was very much attracted to me and was sorry for the kiss. OK..so the line was crossed..but we both agreed it shouldnt go further...We continuied to be friends until he left the place of employment for a better opportunity....but it seem like when he left...he still wanted to be friends via text but not in person...which honestly..seems a little off-kiltered. Now grant it, him and gf were having problems before he left and he would reach out to me to get a woman's opinion about the situation, which I gladly gave.... and he would give his advice on men to me when we would meet out and grab a bite and discuss his problems...- thats it, nothing more...I do know there is a boundary that should not be crossed within our friendship...but really valued his friendship as I dont have many male friends....He'll text and want to have a drawn out conversation via text all day long as opposed to just meeting in person discussing our dilemmas...- Just comes across like he doesnt want to me around me...I do hope i taking it the wrong way....but it just seems that way. He's just content texting.