Would a girl be wrong to look at the bigger picture and act on what is good for her rather than stay in a relationship just to please everyone else? Like, I just want to know how heartless is it that you end a relationship, unintentionally hurting the other persons feelings and moving on. I won't lie, this is not about my friend or a coworker, it's my dilemma. I've been called cold hearted and heartless just because, when I was in an unhealthy relationship I ended it and hurt this guy. We were only together for roughly two months and we really had high hopes for it to work out. Then somehow it took a turn for the worst, he confessed some things to me like his real age and all the trife things he did before he supposedly got his mind right. Then when I decided to look past that, he was doing things that didn't rest too easy with me. Seeing that I'm about to leave and go to college in New York, where he happens to live, I didn't want him and all his baggage to drag along with me and my new life. I'm sorry. He's a funny guy and he's friends with my sisters boyfriend so of course they think I'm wrong. I don't see anything wrong with it. What do you think? Are there some things I need to change within myself?