Black Relationships : He Says or Shows He Doesn't Want You - Be Thankful

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  1. Destee

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    Peace and Blessings Sisters,

    If a Brother says or shows that he does not want you, accept it as a gift, with heart warming thankfulness.

    I think it's probably hard for a Brother to say / show a Sister, that he does not want her, but when he does ... we often fight it.

    We cry, feel hurt, act as if he's done us wrong, refuse to leave, hang on like a puppy ... when the Brother has actually done a good thing.

    His saying it is the best thing ... but sometimes ... it's probably easier for them to show it, than say it.

    Either way ... we should welcome it ... be hopeful that he gets what he really wants ... and happy that he thought enough of you to be honest.

    Receive the information as a Gift From God. The Truth. Freeing you to go on with your life, to be with someone that wants you, even if that someone is you.

    Many Brothers keep a Sister hanging on, leaving only after he's milked her dry, rather than being honest.

    Many Sisters keep their own selves hanging on, as he milks her dry, rather than dealing with the truth of his words or actions.

    Sisters get caught up for months and years, never knowing ... or never paying attention to his words or actions ... staying with a Brother that does not want her.

    You're abusing your own self, when you do this. Life is hard enough as is, don't make it more burdensome, by imposing yourself on folk who don't want you.

    It's not a good look ... begging someone to want you ... who has said or shown they don't. Sisters fighting Sisters, over a Brother that wants neither of you.

    That's not right. You cannot blame the Brother (or the Sister), because you're going krazee, at his telling or showing you the truth.

    So Sisters ... instead of feeling all so sad, cause someone does not want you ... Be Thankful ... :)

    Re-focus those attentions on yourself!

    I know it's hard. I know it was probably a shocking and painful revelation ... but get over it.

    Life must go on ... with the very best of yourself you can muster ... one that loves yourself, no matter if no one else ever does.

    Well ... not if no one else ever does ... 'cause ... Destee Loves You ... but in situations like this ... Destee Love can be a little lacking.

    So ... with that in mind ... use what part of this you can, and throw away the rest.

    Love You!

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    Destee
     
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    That was beautiful and very encouraging!

    THANK YOU SISTER DESTEE!

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    Too bad that I did not read this earlier.

    I saw a sister getting played bad--and she was there sulking waiting for the man to return.

    I should have given the lady my card. :)

    Thanks Destee
     
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    Thank GOD for not answering your prayers



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  5. Destee

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    I don't understand what you're saying ... what do you mean?

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    Sometimes we pray for things that we dont need. Sometimes GOD says, you shouldnt have that


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    okay ... absolutely ... i agree ... thank you

    love you! :kiss:

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    Destee
     
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