Black Relationships : Having your baby...

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  1. CarrieMonet

    CarrieMonet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Women: would you carry a baby for a good friend if there was no way she could conceive?

    Men: would you donate sperm to your good friend's wife if he was impotent and desperately wanted a child?
     
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    Nope, because they can still get child support from you down the line if they really wanted to. Plus, there are too many issues that may come up later. What if the child finds out and is pissed or ashamed.
     
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    no, but i might sell them some if they had the ducats. :dance:
     
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    I agree with this post completely!
     
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    I would say no as well for many reasons as such above
    it's like cheating in the next room, they can also adopt a child !
     
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    This is a very interesting question Sister Carrie and one that I recently had a discussion about. Recently a 67-year old woman gave birth because her daughter couldn't have children. I asked myself if I could do that and my immediate reaction was that I could see myself doing that if I was in that situation.

    I find the men's comments thus far interesting because I never thought of whether Black men would voluntarily donate their sperm to say--even a sperm bank. They are looking at it from a legal and economical as well as moral standpoint. There are a lot of single women out there whose chances of being in a committed relationship are slim to almost nil. Many of them want children of their own even though they may not have the partner in which to produce these children. Sure, there are children who can be adopted, but going through adoption procedures can be a very time-consuming process and there are no guarantees that you will be approved. Am I correct? If not, someone please correct me. But still, I wonder if Black men who say they wouldn't now, whether they think there is ANY situation or circumstance compelling enough to cause them to change their minds to become a sperm donor.

    Good topic Sister Carrie!

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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    Not me. First of all I think women that choose to knowingly concieve and raise a child without a father are very selfish. Yes, it's an option but they are short-changing the child because they aren't going to be able to benefit from a 2 parent household. Then there is the legal aspect of it..which is probably the most intimidating. I don't see any circumstances that would make me consider it. Not even if my best girlfriend needed my sperm. Nope, because you never know what problems that act will branch off into later on. As a man, I would be completely powerless and vulnerable if something went wrong.
     
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    so, how many black women have a difficulty getting sperm?
    i thought it was the reverse, too much sperm in there.

    before i can take this seriously, you would have to convince me that there are black females suffering from a lack of sperm.
     
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    Two weeks ago a 55 year old black woman gave birth to her own twin grandchildren. Her daughter is married but she could not carry the babies, so the mother carried them for her daughter and son-in-law.

    When I made this post, it was the afternoon that the story ran...just made me curious if others would do something similar for a family member or friend.
     
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    just because you can do a thing is not a good enough reason to do it.

    i might be willing to go the extra mile to help someone in need, but having a baby is not what i consider a life or death issue.
    i think you can lead a perfectly good life without.

    as the major problem in the world is over population, i don't see extraordinary measures to have children as being necessary.

    these people sound quite self indulgent to me.
     
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