- Oct 11, 2021
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Hi all.
I'm a biracial Black woman, have been dating a Black man since 2019. The more and more I get to know him I'm realizing funny stuff about him.
He has ONLY white, asian, or super racially ambiguous friends. Actually his only Black friends are random guys he meets through work.
He has a huge booming baritone voice that he softens sooooo much he sounds even white than white people. Like literally even my white friends have commented on how "proper" he sounds. Sometimes it like BOTHERS me how much he articulates and enunciates. We live in a Black neighborhood and I can hear my neighbors laughing when he talks loud and his voice carries out of the window.
I started putting the clues together and decided to ask him if he's ever dated a Black girl. He says yes, but there is no proof. I'd never heard of him mention her before.
I think he's colorist and is only with me because I'm mixed- although he talks a mean talk like he's down and with all my pro Blackness.
It feels like I'm dating a corny white dude.
To make it harder, he's an extreme introvert and we barely go out (plus, pandemic).. the few times I've seen him interact with Black folk he's so awkward it's like painful. I only see him interact with his friends and work buddies online and it's all so painfully corporate and white washed. It honestly makes me kind of sick.
He also is so soft and avoidant that I don't trust he would stand up for me if trouble happened.
I'm obviously just looking to rant about someone I obviously need to end things with.. it's just so weird.. i have no one to talk to about this. My family wants kids out of me so they say I should be happy to have a "proper" guy... but I don't think I can do this! OMG!
I'm a biracial Black woman, have been dating a Black man since 2019. The more and more I get to know him I'm realizing funny stuff about him.
He has ONLY white, asian, or super racially ambiguous friends. Actually his only Black friends are random guys he meets through work.
He has a huge booming baritone voice that he softens sooooo much he sounds even white than white people. Like literally even my white friends have commented on how "proper" he sounds. Sometimes it like BOTHERS me how much he articulates and enunciates. We live in a Black neighborhood and I can hear my neighbors laughing when he talks loud and his voice carries out of the window.
I started putting the clues together and decided to ask him if he's ever dated a Black girl. He says yes, but there is no proof. I'd never heard of him mention her before.
I think he's colorist and is only with me because I'm mixed- although he talks a mean talk like he's down and with all my pro Blackness.
It feels like I'm dating a corny white dude.
To make it harder, he's an extreme introvert and we barely go out (plus, pandemic).. the few times I've seen him interact with Black folk he's so awkward it's like painful. I only see him interact with his friends and work buddies online and it's all so painfully corporate and white washed. It honestly makes me kind of sick.
He also is so soft and avoidant that I don't trust he would stand up for me if trouble happened.
I'm obviously just looking to rant about someone I obviously need to end things with.. it's just so weird.. i have no one to talk to about this. My family wants kids out of me so they say I should be happy to have a "proper" guy... but I don't think I can do this! OMG!
