I wish I could give you some practical advice BigTown, but to tell you the truth, the ball is in her "court". Women have more power than they pretend to when it comes to having children: It is up to her if she wants to keep the baby or have an abortion! It is up to her if she wants to put the baby up for adoption. Also until you can get court ordered visitation rights, it is up to her to decide when & where you will see the baby (If she decides to have it)! I definately wouldn't marry this woman! If this is her mentality, that would be a nightmare of a marriage (especially since you don't love her)...and you'd only end up paying child support & allimony. Right now you have to play the waiting game, and in the mean time, like brotherJames stated: Seek legal advise!