Jails / Prisons : Have you ever waited on a man in jail/prison?

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  1. nevar

    nevar Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I just like to know would you wait on your man if he goes to jail/prison. I know of a woman who husband was in prison for ten years just got out last year. And they seem to be doing fine. In these struggling times would you leave/stay with your man if he is serving a short sentence. Give me your take on this ladies if you will!:qqb022::garbage:
     
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    would if we were together before he went to jail. Yes..thats a no brainer for me.
     
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    Hi Nevar...

    There are a lot of things that would come into play in order for me to make such a decision. The first and foremost, what he did to cause his imprisonment. If its something not so serious, such as excessive traffic tickets or something that didn’t hurt anyone, probably so. But if he, robbed, sold drugs or anything like that… I wouldn’t.



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    Greetings All!

    I'm with SiS Coco....depends on many factors. Those mentioned as well as the state of our relationship...heck....he may have robbed a bank trying pay the bills or something like that and our stuff was tight prior to that...YES I'd wait..or so I'd like to think....it would probably also depend on age, who else involve...ie children....what he went to jail for...most important tho I think is the state of the relationship prior to incarceration. Heck...we may have just separated and tho that would be messed up if he went nuts cause over missing this honey thinking he could get it somewhere else or something..then....i'd might feel real bad..BUT......he might be on his own stressing his mama and sister to put money on his books and call his homies to come see him and what not..

    btw....No....have had no occasion to do so....
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    yes, twice. but not the same man. (i might elaborate later.)
     
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    To elaborate further--I would definitely be supportive if a man was in jail for a short time. but even if a man is in jail for a long time, for the worng reason--i would still try to be supportive. Far be it from me to judge, first of all. Second, I have walked a mile in those shoes--went to jail for fighting (not long, but long enough.) People in jail need the support of people on the outside to remain normal, 'cause some weird ish goes on in jail, take my word.
     
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    If a man I was with

    KEY WORD with, whatever he did I would stand by his side. Im not going to be with a drug dealer, a man who doesnt have his emotions in check so he wont be a person who will fly off the handle etc..so if the man I am with goes to jail, it MUST be for a good reason
     
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    What if he got a great deal of years ......will you really wait ????

    I've seen marriages break up do to the years set forth !
    next thing he knew was some papers for divorce..........
     
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    yea.. If we had been together for a while beforehand and it was a short sentence ..I would wait:cook::tennis::qqb017: ..why not?
     
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    have you ever waited....

    they say that-absence makes the heart grow fonder....uhhh no-absence makes the heart wander.
     
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