We are used to saying we are too hard with the person that we love. of course, when we are hurt by somebody that we love, we tend to be more hard with this person. in the same manner, with the aim of giving a lesson to a person that we love, we tend to be so hard too.but isn't it owed to the fact that we have just a trend(tendency) to throw back(to reject) our frustrations and our "too much" feelings on that person? For example, the husband who comes back after long working day will always put back it stress on his wife or then on his children. But at this moment, Does he feel better after that? does the punishment we impose to our close relations lead to release ourselves from our stress. i'm talking about some relationships issues.