Black Relationships : Guys....can you love a woman yet cheat on her?

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  1. unique

    unique Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Just wondering if you could truly love a woman with your heart and soul and cheat on her repeatedly ? My ex fiance' notice the ex claims he loves me but I sure as heck can't see it after all the stunts he's pulled.
     
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    He might love you; however, if he has repeatedly cheated, then he is not ready to be in a relationship. Personally I would look elsewhere.
     
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    if you love a woman, you want her to be happy.
    there fore you tell her the truth and let her make her own decision as to what will work best for her.
     
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    truely no you can't !
    if you love her whole heart and soul you will never cheat not even blink on it
    if one do step outside the relationship then something is wrong
    1 he could be just a sweet talker and kind but in heart a wannabe playa type
    2 his true love is not where he lay his head
    3 he just don't care and love you but want you in his life

    you can not love a woman and cheat but we all know there are thousands not just
    men but women as well who do cheat for many reasons which none is better then
    the next and cheating brings bitterness / betrayal and pain even anger sometime
    physical body harm you just don't play with emotions and love your answer is NO.
     
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    It is an interesting question, but...
    yes, surely you can "love" a person and have a sexual relationship with another.
    However, being "in love" with a mate, will never allow him/her to stray, ...there's a difference in loving someone and being in love with someone.
    (jmho)
     
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    i can love more than one person.
     
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    Unique

    I can tolerate all things. But if my spouse cheated, and she knows how I feel. I must have a partner who can ride the road real. Because everything and everyboby else makes me look over my back. Ready to over take me and bring me down with an attack. My mate has to be different. I must trust you whole hearted. I won't ask of you something and be one who depart it.

    If I ever found out she cheated on me. I will make her walk the plank of this relationSHIP see. Hands tied. Sword drawn. I push her off if she doesn't walk.

    After all I have done ( sacrificed, given, denied myself ) to betray me for a knucklehead, abs, showing clown is too much. I told her from the beginning. I will always take care of you. When I got married the vows said I will never forsake you.

    I have been married twenty one years. I have been with my wife for thirty one. I have NEVER slept with another woman in all this time. Does one return to being a virgin? lol

    Thru all the years when she had a headache. Mad at me because she couldn't get her way. Me disappointed in her because she didn't stand by my side. Allowed others to break our stride. I have turned down all others. Standing before me on platters. No strings just sex, she won't know was the claim. Some were naked. Who let you in my room, laying in my bed it didn't matter.

    It is a conviction in me I won't violate, one thing I can say. I gave to my ( lover ) my spouse, my mate. No drama, related to anothers desires. Or my weakness to venture because I'm left with time. :time:

    Some other woman have offered to take care of me. They had the means long money, and beauty all could see. I look and ask sometimes I must be a fool. An average man would have broken the rules. And worked that plan. Worked it like a natural man. But I'm above average. I may be one of a kind. I love my woman. That is true love in my mind.

    I respect myself first. Which means she has nothing to fear. Besides I need you to understand ( one important thing about me ) get into my mind, not my bed is that clear. Any man with a organ can lay pipe my dear.

    He may not be the best plumber. Or the king on the block. But many men think not with their brains but their cocks. :eek:hmy:

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    NO. You can’t love someone and cheat; even a thief or drug dealer knows when the lights are flashing. The activity is illegal. So they run.

    How did sex take the seat up front? Affairs of the heart should not be bumped to conquer another’s body sweet spot.

    Fifteen minutes of lust.
    No where has it got.

    You.

    Brought many years and hours of pain.
    If you kept the secret it played on your brain.
    Time passed you thought it was OK.
    To continue to disrespect you’re self in this way.
    Eventually you were caught.
    By disease or by your mate.
    By then time has past and it is too late.

    Out of time.
    Out of luck.
    Out of love you should be.

    You never played the cards you had with me.

    Grief bringers know life is hard by it’s self.
    Why bring another’s issues into your life and be selfish.

    They will want more time, money none of which you can supply.
    Your married you’re dating, committed to another in their eyes.

    One truth about us is sex is a loose practiced trait.
    We never lost that during the slave days we felt.

    Blame the morals of men.
    Or the whims of a women.

    They both are wrong to take from another.
    One problem I know is we don’t listen to our lovers.

    We don’t ask the hard questions like am I enough?
    Has your desire to wonder, lost your desire to lust?
    Can you control your self, if a woman stood naked?
    In front of you can you tell her no and reject it.

    If a man laid out a wonderful plan.
    Stood there grabbing his private in his hand.
    Showing his abs, like it was a great prize.
    Will it make you sweat, bringing moisture to your thighs?

    If he painted a moment better than mine can you reject his hand?
    Can you continue to build with the man you promised?
    To make a real world for ( me and you ) us on this comet.
    He has the cars the money and the job right now.
    He will share so much and leave you wanting somehow.

    But I promise to love the best I can.
    I won’t stray to another, and expect you to do the same.

    If you desire that.
    Let me know.

    I’m grown we can work that out.

    Get a divorce or break up this relationship now.

    The bottom line here is so much is done wrong.

    If you mess up
    I’m sorry
    I can’t listen to the song.

    I’m sorry.
    I won’t.
    Forgive me again.

    Please go away, don’t play that again.
     
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    Hodee....much respect on your reply, much respect brotha. I have an idea of where you're coming from. My ex and I were married for 19 years, and had known each other for over 20. We both made some mistakes, which is why the relationship eventually came to an end, but, sleeping around is something I never did. I would think that it would be difficult to trust your spouse/significant other again if they did, and what is a relationship without trust?
     
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    Brother Hodee I have to give you honor for this post! This was one of the deepest testimonies to one's wife I've ever read.
     
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    i can love and be in love with more than one person.
     
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