Our Beloved Chief Elder Osiris ... no one else could get a response from me, about this, but you. I have the highest regard and respect for you, and because of that, i will attempt to recap what has taken place over the past few months.
Sister Goddess has received a few warnings, regarding our rules already. Each time she had to be warned, she acted like she was slow to understand, asking all sorts of questions. No matter, we obliged her. She would then go on to voice her dislike of the rule, or us speaking to her about it. She even resorted to what appeared to be retaliation, by posting lots of thread titles, calling un-named folk, hypocrites, and jezebels, and such, that just happened to come after she received a warning. She even challenged the authority of the Moderators and Administrators to even speak to her about such things, demanding to know which of the TEAM Members felt this way, as though the one bringing her the warning, was not sufficient. She even went as far as to say she'd keep breaking the rule, and we could just fix it, after each time she did it. Of course we let her know that this was not acceptable and that we would not be babysitting her, holding her hand, or continually talking to her about the Spirit and peace, adherence to our rules, in this community.
04/18/07 - Sister Goddess warned about rules by me
05/25/07 - Sister Goddess warned about the same thing by Sister Purple
08/10/07 - Sister Goddess warned yet again, about the same by Sister Purple - it is this thread where she suggests we remove her violations
09/16/07 - Sister Goddess was warned about a different / new violation by Brother MenNefer
09/17/07 - Sister Goddess challenging Management, Sister Purple and Brother MenNefer - requiring Sister Purple to be more forceful in issuing a warning, than she ever has been, in the all years she's been here.
All of the above, are surrounded by other threads by Sister Goddess, talking of hypocrites, jezebels, and other ugly things you'd call someone you were angry with. Sister Purple and i actually discussed this, because it was so blatant, and surprising. We never spoke to Sister Goddess about this, let her have her way, because she wasn't actually calling our names, but we saw it. Basically a temper tantrum of sorts, letting us know that she didn't appreciate being corrected.
Sister Goddess carries on here, as though this is her own personal pulpit. She posts thread on top of thread on top of thread, that get zero responses, yet she continues to do this. By doing this, she overwhelms the home page, and all other titles, possibly discouraging folk from even joining us, as it appears we are the words she says ... since her threads oftentimes outnumber all others, combined.
I've invited guest speakers to join us, and after sending the email, i kinda cringed remembering that they'd visit us for the first time, and see her (negative) thread titles, monopolizing the page. It just doesn't paint a pretty picture of us, it doesn't paint the truth. We have much wisdom inside this community, we are fair and equitable to our Members, we have great discussions, debates, information, and i truly believe reading her posts and titles, keep people from joining or wanting to be a part. Not all people, but some, and that is not acceptable.
Even Members have come to me, suggesting the same. This was a couple of months ago, and i brushed it off, because i wasn't feeling that in my Spirit, but as time has passed, unfortunately, i feel it too. It's almost as though this is her goal, to discourage people from coming here, or to run them away. Initially i thought it was her zealousness for what you've taught her, as i understand she is your student. But as time has passed Chief Elder, while she may use some of the same words as you do, she lacks the harmony, balance, and wisdom you always demonstrate. I even went as far as to tell her, from my vantage point, it's as though she hurts your effort, by carrying on like she does.
She will say ugly things, yet not want to discuss it. Attacking folk on the sly, in an under-handed way, then hiding her hands. I have spoke to her about this, because she
did it to me as well. After watching her do this to others, as well as myself, along with everything else, all the patience we've already demonstrated ... i knew we were growing close to the end of this foolishness.
We are a discussion forum, among other things. There are some, like you and the other columnists, that are free to just post your thoughts, without having to answer any questions ... but that's the only area that gets such consideration. We have always discouraged Members from using us as a "dumping ground" to post their words, and not be willing to respond to questions or discussion, surrounding that which they post. Moderators, Administrators, and myself, have spoke to Sister Goddess about this too, to no avail.
We have just launched the Elder Interviews, and already, her posts, her words, have discouraged Members from even wanting to have their Elders take part, she was so negative. I initially ignored her negative comments in that thread, because i was so hyped up about the entire idea, i wanted to stay focused. Then she comes in later, in the same thread, and asks for you to be considered as an interview-ee, and for me, it was the proverbial straw. At this point, i responded to the initial post of hers, that i had originally ignored, as well as let her know, i was really at the end of my rope. Because the Elder Interviews is such a new effort, i didn't want the negativity to remain in the thread, so i removed both her and my posts, from the
original Elder Interview thread, but those posts are
right here.
I believe she has received extra consideration, because of her affiliation with you. You know Sister Purple and i love you, and naturally, those you love will be given the same kind of love. Sister Goddess Kalifa has never been warned about a rule, she's never come close to breaking one, she's been a pure joy and pleasure. But not so with Sister Goddess. She acts as though, being affiliated with you, means she does not have to abide by the rules. The logical thing would be for her to act better, because she's affiliated with you, but she acts worse. The chances are great, that any other Member doing the same, would have already been gone. The Management Team, Moderators, Administrators, had already discussed her banning. We have invested a considerable amount of time, in trying to manage this one Member, and it just doesn't make sense, when we have so many. As i think on it Chief Elder, it's as though she was trying to get it to this point, where she could come to you, and say ... look what they've done to poor me. We even talked about this too, Sister Purple and i, how she'd probably drag you into this, when all she really had to do, was be respectful of our home and the Members here. I don't understand it.
Given the fact that she did not receive any previous warnings in the Spirit they were given, challenging each one, only reluctantly complying, if at all, carrying on like she couldn't understand and needed hand-holding, basically throwing a tantrum, retaliating, etc., it makes no sense to give her more warnings.
Moderators, Administrators, nor i, have the time to babysit any grown people in this community.
This, in a nut-shell, is why Sister Goddess is banned.
Beloved Chief Elder Osiris, i hope the above can at least begin to fill in the blanks.
If you have more questions, i'm right here, as always.
Much Love and Peace.
Destee