Black Women : Girl or Woman - what's the difference?

Discussion in 'Black Women - Mothers - Sisters - Daughters' started by StefiA, Aug 14, 2010.

  1. StefiA

    StefiA Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I was wondering... when does a girl become a woman...
    Up till now I've always called myself a girl not a woman
    Now pretty soon I'll be 24 and that still seems quite young to me plus I'm not really responsible for anything except myself - I'm only semi-independent as I still need my parents to bail me out with rent and stuff every now and then
    So is it an age you reach?....
    Is it when you can say you're totally independent?...
    Is it when you get married?...
    Is it when you become a mother?...
    Just what is the difference between a girl and a woman?
     
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    Ankhur Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    When she isable to take responsibilty for her actions, and only tells her significant other that she is always right,

    and not everyone around her
     
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    Well, now, in the U.S., males and females are legal ADULTS at 18.

    But, that does not also make one "GROWN" unless he/she is taking care of themselves (and, sometimes, also another dependent).

    As for a "Girl" versus a "Woman," I have these personal thoughts:

    A "girl" whines about what she doesn't like or doesn't have.
    A woman speaks her mind about she doesn't like and works toward getting the things she wants to have.

    A "girl" looks for a man to complete her.
    A woman looks for a man to complement her.


    Now, these are just 2 distinctions, IMO. I may add more.

    However, sadly, there are many GROWN, ADULT females who are still "GIRLS."
     
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    I always saw it IMO , the transfomation steps from birth
    A beautiful baby girl with no worries in the world
    then alittle cute girl growing in life
    a young teen girl making transistion into early woman hood
    then a woman

    Age don't make you a woman , girls often still learning / none-dependent / and
    not really understanding her position in womanhood and what moral factors they
    take , not even when with child you not a woman yet until you step up into what
    it takes as a woman to care for thy child

    A girl will play this childish little game when she not ready for responsibility

    You will know when you made that transistion into womanhood when you can now
    step up take control of your fate / direction and responsibilities as a woman a mother
    with high self-esteem / Independency knowing what she want in life and her goals
    but a girl don't even have a clue yet to what she wants

    Just like stated above a girl need guiding and look for a mate to complete her
    A woman completes herself and guide her own fate beyond any man with him or not !

    The facts is a girl and woman is of the same just mindset divides the concept of
    difference between girl and woman.....even some grown upper age females not
    womanly yet for she is carried by her man and if he stop she at lost.

    A man can't tell a woman what to do , but a girl will do what they told
    when this stage is pass then womanhood is inbound .......
     
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    I guess I wondered also at my age, 21, what made me a woman as opposed to a girl, because I use both to describe myself; one so people don't think I'm trying to ditch responsibility, the other because I just feel so young to act as if I'm grown.


    But though it's said a "woman" doesn't need a man to complete her, in my faith, woman was made exactly for a man, so she's part of who he is and bound to that.

    So to me, these make a woman: a woman is one who's made for a man; that is, she's ready to be for a man and not just for herself.

    A woman is ready to give attention to her child, not just take all attention to herself.

    A woman is ready to be fearless, not a fearful one always waiting to back down.

    A woman respects her body and knows her body, and doesn't just see it as a playground for others.

    A woman is humble in her ways knowing who she is; that she is a woman and will never change from being a woman no matter how people view her. She just knows herself.
     
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    Thanx for this insight....

    I always thought a girl became a woman at the age of 18.:10500:

    Have patients...I'm frum da old skool...:p

    Peace!
     
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    Lol, I may as well have been playing with dolls at 18; just looking back from 21, I was not mature enough to be truly considered an adult. Legally, yes, but I still needed great assistance. Being 18 is like using training wheels on a bike, lol

    I look all ready, but I still ain't got the balance.
     
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    :SuN020: you are a woman after you have met me….
     
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    We all know ourselves better than anyone else, but IMO, you have great balance.;)

    Peace!
     
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    Thanks for that, Enki! Ya know, when my brother heard me talking about this thread, he asnwered, "I thought a girl became a woman when she turned 18." Now, he's 22 going on 23 years old, so maybe it's not so old skool afta all? lol
     
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