Black Relationships : Getting tested! when??and is this been taking serius ?is it still a taboe?

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  1. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hi guys i wanted to start a topic about ......
    sumthing that is still going on today....
    I heard on the news that the numbers of hiv is increasing...
    everywhere ...
    In the country of my father the numbers of young hiv infected
    are increasing and of course we know in africa and all over the world...
    and these numbers are probebly more because a lot of cases are unknown
    Some people in the world still think its far from home...

    Ofcourse using condoms having safe sex is one of the inportant things we have to do..to fight this disease..

    but Is it the ultimate protection ?
    Now we all know that everyone can get il and i mean as far as any kind of desease...
    there was a case of a child that was infected with during the pregnancy
    and the dokters gave her 1 year.....
    she still lives and is more healthy than an other child who has blood cancer..
    So we all know that eventually our lives are in gods hands..

    We also know that even if you are in a relationship and you both have tested
    that that is still isnt asurance ,because there are manny casses that eventualy one of the partners couldnt let it to have sex outside the relationship and with bad luck the condom broke and brought the.....thing home...


    Now there are casses that there are couples who have a relationship ..
    and have safe sex who come at the point that they are settle down...
    but they dont test before they put the condom aside...
    because it turns out that this testing thing is still a TABOE...
    or they are both scared to do it for the outcome...
    so they leave it aside...

    I would like to know how ya all feel about this.


    When is it time to getting tested...?

    and do you think that people are taking it seriusly?

    What is extreme and what is not.....?

    How inportent is trust in all this...

    And have there been cases that people saperated because of getting tested?

    this is maybe a heavy topic maybe not...
    feel free to respond..




    Love Libertylady :heart:
     
  2. Destee

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    Hello My Dear Darling Sister LibertyLady ... :love:

    i think a person should get tested as soon as they have engaged in any activity that could have possibly left them infected ... and all months following that initial encounter, or whatever they are suggesting these days. I don't even know ... up to 6 months after the act?

    In regard to folk not taking this seriously ... i don't really know. I know what the news reports say, but i can only go by my own behaviour ... and it's very protective of me. I can only hope that my Sisters and Brothers love themselves enough to look out for themselves.

    :heart:

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  3. CarrieMonet

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    They say the latest HIV test can detect the virus in you as soon as 2 months after an encounter.

    Random sex is just not an option at all, even if you use protection.

    The safest thing to do if you are planning on having sex is to both submit to an HIV test before engaging in any act, and then still using safe sex once you do.

    Other than that....abstain.
     
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    I agree which should close the doors on cheating coz too many sex partners
    is never health of good even if protected but safe sex should be no options
    yes the rise of HIV virus has become bigger and reaching far out spreading like
    wildflowers the only way to cut this number is to be safe and have one sex partner
    and try to stop the use of sharing needles ......the Question is what can be done
    to curve some of this sad drama that's taking lives at rapid speed ?
     
  5. the_story

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    i don't think getting tested is taboo...i think its important in this days sociey...its affecting youth eerywhere...its s shame cuz some of the kids at my school think that u can't get pregnant when u use a comdom...smh....they have sooo little information to go one..its a shame
     
  6. LibertyLady

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    thank you all for youre respondings :heart:

    Yes i think it should not be a taboe..
    And its most inportent these days that people are getting themselves tested
    before they Get serius and have sex..
    I have a friend who is infected with HiV and she says it nessesary that we pass trough knowledge in the hope to prevent people to make the same mistake as she made and her story is a kind of exreme but she wants to share it .She also has her talk group with Hiv people....and helps them to deal with their situation...
    To be honest it was the first time i was confronted with this virus so close...
    We kinda met eachother trough work ..it clicked between us but verry soon she told me about her situation...
    At first i was schocked i heard about a lot about it and stuff but this was new to me..But after she told it to me i was thinking that i,m verry blessed to know her and to know about the knowledge she past me trough.But most inportent is that i am blessed is that she is a nice friend and we can laugh and i love her children...


    Now her story is sad but it helps us to remind that it can happen to any one of us even when you are realy carrefull...

    She first told me that is always inportant to have safe sex..
    ofcourse you all know its dumb to use Old condoms
    and make shure when someone opents it there is nothing sharps around..
    Remember that using condoms is actualy a temporary safety...
    and protection..
    Make shure that you both get tested before you decide to let the coat of..
    Dont play games with fire...

    And here is the most inportent thing...
    When you getting tested make shure you do it together...
    and Aspecialy when the results come in....
    make shure that you see it with youre own eyes when the docter or the
    office where you have done it show it to you...
    Dont let anyone pick it up for you.....
    Cause this is where it went wrong with my friend..

    In her first relationship she and her boyfriend tested herselves
    she was also carefull sinds than...
    He left her cause he was playing around ...After he left she tested herself again in case She got a child from him but everything was ok with her and the child afterwards..
    After this relationship She met another man...
    She was in love with him and everything seemed fine...
    This man was even a father to the first child she had...
    But on the long run...this man had his own dark sides...
    She did not knew he was experemating with guys and it turned out that he had two faces and this she al descoverd when he died...
    This is what happend ...
    Between the relationship...she still had her tested her and her Man ...and everything and the results where ok than...
    Than she got pragnent from another child....
    One time in the last mond she was pragnent he came home and said that he wanted to have sex and that he was a man and that he had his needs..
    She had now and than pains in her back and she heard now and than that somethimes sex could help her relax for the pains....
    So she finaly had sex with him...

    Not knowing that the man knew that he was infected with hive...

    Wich turned out later cause after the baby was born ...
    In her first year she got verry sick often....
    It was in that time they did tests and they found out she also had Hiv..
    and thats when My friend find out that she got the virus to..
    When you have the virus it does not mean that you have Aids ...
    She also told me that a lot of people fear what they dont know..
    and that is why a lot of people took their distance from her ....
    They fear to eat and stuff.....(and i told her well i dont and youreFood is Nice and you gonna see me around a Lot lol)

    After she found out she had hiv she confronted her man and asked him why he could not tell her this even when their own child was sick and the dokters did not knew what waswrong with her...
    Even after he did this to her she forgave him but the relationship was over but she told him that she always was going to be there for him...
    besides that he had so much hate for her though she still also believe somethimes that he loved her..
    He couldnt deal with this and eventualy he hang hiself up...


    Now this is a sad story guys .....
    But the message she wanted to pass is...
    That of course you can not fight against youre destheny but that does not mean we dont take care of ourselve and bodys and that we have to falue
    trust.....
    Though i think she was carrefull enough she still said that she thought that she had to see the paper the last one where it said that he was tested..
    and that it was negetive...
    She says she had to listen to her soul ......when he wanted to have sex with her in the last mond cause it was then that she got infected...
    The thing is is that she has peace now and believes that god has a plan with her...to help other people and to open their eyes ad to give knowledge on Schools and people..
    Besides that she also realises that God desides when we go..
    Cause the dokters give her infected child not even one year..
    and she is now 3..

    and as far as herself her virus is verry low and she is more healtyer than other people....
    And i personaly believe she is going to do alot for People in or community and i believe that a lot of people are going to hear from her...
    and the dokters taking exams from her child who is infected they can turn ther heads around the child......."'like she is a wonder"'


    and we go ...."'They not gonna get it""


    anyway People take care...

    But most of all be supportive......
    to others ...
    Support eachother
    If you have a brother or sister who has is dont be scared
    but be honest to them tell them if you are afraid that it is new to you
    just ask and Know what is dangerous and how you can get infected as far as
    the way,s you can get infected like open wounds and stuff ...

    But get the knowlege about this and give eachother a hand

    cause you wont die from that...



    much love


    Libertylady :heart:
     
  7. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    just wanted to remember you..


    and remind you ...it was not that this guy was experimenting with man..

    that he was infected by a guy...


    cause he didnt knew it from who he got it......


    just wanted to let you know ..

    there are ofcourse gay man who are maybe even more carrefuller now than hetero people....


    its has nothing to do now if youre gay or not.....

    it has to do with the fact that people are trowing with their body,s and


    most of all


    WITH TRUST!
     
  8. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I hope you have readed the two reply,s i posted up above this one..


    i hope we can all

    pass on knowledge

    give eachothers a hand ...







    Lovelibertylady:heart:
     
  9. panafrica

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    This is a good lesson for all of us to learn from. Thank you for sharing Liberty.
     
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