Black Women : FYI - What Rapists Look For in Potential Victims

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  1. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
    interviewed on what they look for in a potential
    victim and here are some interesting facts:

    1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim
    is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman
    with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that
    can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go
    after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair
    are not common targets.

    2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They
    will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove
    quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut
    clothing.

    3) They also look for women on their cell phone,
    searching through their purse or doing other
    activities while walking because they are off and can
    be easily overpowered.


    4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and
    rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and
    8:30 a.m.


    5) The number one place women are abducted
    from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number
    two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is
    public restrooms.


    6) The thing about these men is that they are looking
    to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second
    location where they don't have to worry about getting
    caught.


    7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape
    carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is
    15-20 years.

    8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
    discouraged because it only takes a minute or two f or
    them to realize that going after you isn't worth it
    because it will be time consuming.


    9) These men said they would not pick on women who
    have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be
    used from a distance, in their hands.
    Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
    really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon.
    So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not
    worth it.
    several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If
    someone is following behind you on a street or in a
    garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look
    them in the face and ask them a question, like what
    time is it, or make general small talk, I can't
    believe it is so cold out here or we're in for a bad
    winter. Now you've seen their face and could identify
    them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.

    11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your
    hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most
    of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a
    woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
    not> be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking
    for an EASY target.

    ) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a
    huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever
    he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it
    out will be a deterrent.

    13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
    strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are
    grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the
    attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
    armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman
    in a class this guy taught told him she used the
    underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape
    her and was so upset she broke through the skin and
    tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try
    pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
    stand it; it hurts.


    14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I
    know from a particularly unfortunate experience that
    if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful.
    You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
    want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists
    told our instructor is that they want a woman who will
    not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, &
    he's out of there.

    15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his
    first two fingers and bend them back as far as
    possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as
    possible. The instructor did it to me without using
    much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both
    knuckles cracked audibly.

    16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.
    Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone
    with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior,
    don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
    a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse
    if the guy really was trouble.
     
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    James, this is so good to know.
    Many people don't know things like this
    and glad u brought it to the forum.
    Because when was 15, I was almost raped,
    but I carry dog repellent with me and spray it in his ears.
    So, I got away, but there are too many that don't
    which is disturbing to know and hear.
     
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    Thank you so much brotha James :grouphug: :)
     
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    vital information JFP. I will definately take heed.
     
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    great post ..........brutha James

    i also heard that targets are women with skimmpy clothing
    mini skirts and half topless type of garments
    they love abanding buildings
    bus stops and train station
    i've heard that some use force and brand a knife.
     
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    Wow, very useful information. I also understand many(most?) women who are raped actually know their attackers.
     
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    :10500: i forgot i posted this…...
     
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    Dear James,

    Thank you ... what a gift!!!

    I shall heed every precious word of your OP.

    God bless!
     
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    And now, you remember. I thought it was worth bumping.:D
     
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    Bump; just for a while longer. ;)
     
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