Black Relationships : Funerals & Loved Ones

[CarrieMonet]

I think I went to my first funeral at age 9 and the black folks' behavior mortified me. People screaming, grabbing bodies out of the coffin, or trying to jump in the coffin, or all out hollering...just put me in shock. I remember my cousin tried to jump into the ground on top of the casket as it was put down...and my uncle told them to go on and bury her *** in there if she did. EEEK!

So now I have a fear of funerals. I hate remembering people in coffins. I hate it that SOME idiots take pictures of people in coffins and then place them inside what looks like a normal photo album...seeing those photos always startle me.

My grammy has talked to me until she is blue in the face about what her arrangements are for her funeral. She paid it up front through Purple Cross. I hope I'm able to attend...but it might be hard. I dread the day I go check on my grammy and she is no longer here.

What are your thoughts or feelings regarding funerals?

 

[queentswana]

I don't do the funeral thing either, however, If it's left up to you to handle all the details of it, then you can do it before anyone arrive.

 

[sweetbrownsugar]

...."go on and bury her *** in there if she did!" That had me laughing because I have been to funerals where people cut up just like that! (somebody putting a 5th of liquor in the casket....so Aunt MayJean can have a drank of liquor in heaven too!) Then you always have the cousin or somebody in the orange jumpsuit and handcuffs trying to be hard! Seriously though, I don't do funerals anymore either. I was made to go as a child. As an adult, should I die? there will not be one for me and I don't even want anyone coming to view my body. Half of my family members ain't trying to see a sista while she living. They sho' don't need to be standing next to my casket trying to cry! I'll jump up out of there and scare the h*** out they a***! My family members all of them have been Disfunctional from the get-go. Disfunctional people waiting til somebody's funeral to be FUNCTIONAL. None of them have ever got along! Most of them have moved cities away to get away from each other and have "fallen out" over the years. But they come to these funerals and Straight cut Da Fool like they loved somebody. Let me stop before I croak right here trying to log off of Destee.com. But that's how I feel. I don't go to funerals. and I won't be having one.

 

[CarrieMonet]

I feel you....seriously I do.

 

[MississippiRed]

I don't go to funerals anymore unless I just have to..I've lost too many folk and just can't do it anymore.... To Those I've loved and Lost

Rodney Lyons, Joseph Terrel, JoJo, Disco Kid (Bryan Foster), James Perry, Vette Henderson, Barbara Session, Ethel Martin, Gaynel Boone, Robert Boone, Henry and Sally Freeman, Robert L. Williams(my Daddy see you in my dreams bruh. ) Walter and Iretha Prather, Old Dude, Otis Smith, Nanny Goat, John West, T.R. , Big Dave , Pat Garner, Theresa Ramirez, Baby Martin, Johnny Martin....... Death is the easy part living is hard... Mississippi Red