Black Relationships : Frustrated w/Black Relationships

Hypersonic

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Maybe, just maybe it's a geographical thing considering I live in the land of materialism that is, Los Angeles California. The cost of living is expensive so I've come to the conclusion that professional black women who want an "established man" are seeking men who have earning power, not men like me who are recent college graduate students who are starting their careers out. But I've run out of rope. At 36 years of age with no kids, a graduate degree, a stable job I was always taught that brothers like me were rare and sought after.

I was wrong....

I mean, don't get me wrong, I meet females mostly at work, but a lot of women I have met lately have some serious psychological issues and/or trust issues. At lot of women of this caliber are very draining, many waste time in their own confusion, and most end up breaking it off due to their mistrust in men. Then comes the women are are either married, or in between marriages. I was told by another member to cast a wider net, well, I've done that. I think I've either have extremely bad luck or not meant to have a partner. I ask some of my co-workers to help a brother out but undoubtedly most will set me up with a "bigger woman." Nothing wrong with big women but my mother was a big woman and I had to see her suffer due to her weight when she contracted breast cancer. Her weight was debilitating and added more stress to her body along with the cancer.

Some of my friends want me to encourage the woman in a friendly manner to work out, but I'm done with encouraging women to want to be fit. Some are stuck on being obese and being proud, well, so be it. So what am I left with? Just the ones that have no man but have men issues. Like a recent young lady I met who I thought seemed cool but always kept "gaassing" herself up as a good woman as if by telling me I'm supposed to be convinced. Yet after one date my hand found its was introducing itself to her sex organ....Next! I am really one of the very few black men that wants to settle down and have a family, and the reason I've lasted this long with no kids is because I was afraid to get the wrong woman pregnant.

Some people always talk about "black love" but where I'm from, black people barely acknowledge each other's existence on the street, much less females out here think by speaking to them, you're trying to "hollar" at them.
 

jamesfrmphilly

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Maybe, just maybe it's a geographical thing considering I live in the land of materialism that is, Los Angeles California. The cost of living is expensive so I've come to the conclusion that professional black women who want an "established man" are seeking men who have earning power, not men like me who are recent college graduate students who are starting their careers out. But I've run out of rope. At 36 years of age with no kids, a graduate degree, a stable job I was always taught that brothers like me were rare and sought after.

I was wrong....

I mean, don't get me wrong, I meet females mostly at work, but a lot of women I have met lately have some serious psychological issues and/or trust issues. At lot of women of this caliber are very draining, many waste time in their own confusion, and most end up breaking it off due to their mistrust in men. Then comes the women are are either married, or in between marriages. I was told by another member to cast a wider net, well, I've done that. I think I've either have extremely bad luck or not meant to have a partner. I ask some of my co-workers to help a brother out but undoubtedly most will set me up with a "bigger woman." Nothing wrong with big women but my mother was a big woman and I had to see her suffer due to her weight when she contracted breast cancer. Her weight was debilitating and added more stress to her body along with the cancer.

Some of my friends want me to encourage the woman in a friendly manner to work out, but I'm done with encouraging women to want to be fit. Some are stuck on being obese and being proud, well, so be it. So what am I left with? Just the ones that have no man but have men issues. Like a recent young lady I met who I thought seemed cool but always kept "gaassing" herself up as a good woman as if by telling me I'm supposed to be convinced. Yet after one date my hand found its was introducing itself to her sex organ....Next! I am really one of the very few black men that wants to settle down and have a family, and the reason I've lasted this long with no kids is because I was afraid to get the wrong woman pregnant.

Some people always talk about "black love" but where I'm from, black people barely acknowledge each other's existence on the street, much less females out here think by speaking to them, you're trying to "hollar" at them.
do you have a mirror ?????
 

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Not for nothing but do you ever tire of posting the same babble on every forum under your different sock accounts on this planet involving Black relationships? And on another note, does it not bother you that your avatar insults the legacy of the very woman who was cursed to have opened her heart to scores of heartless and cruel *******MEN******* who ultimately destroyed her will to live?

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Strange for such a catch as you self proclaim to be you seem not to be the man of the prosperous Black woman's dream so you resort to bashing the very same entity that bore you, your own mother who by your own admission succumbed to breast cancer yet you stain her suffering with your version of obesity. I'd say more but you don't seek helpful advice, you seek "Full figured Black women bashing" buddies. Time will tell just how much friendly advice you receive but I'll be busy watching paint dry. Have a nice day.
 

Hermetic

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Maybe, just maybe it's a geographical thing considering I live in the land of materialism that is, Los Angeles California. The cost of living is expensive so I've come to the conclusion that professional black women who want an "established man" are seeking men who have earning power, not men like me who are recent college graduate students who are starting their careers out. But I've run out of rope. At 36 years of age with no kids, a graduate degree, a stable job I was always taught that brothers like me were rare and sought after.

I was wrong....

I mean, don't get me wrong, I meet females mostly at work, but a lot of women I have met lately have some serious psychological issues and/or trust issues. At lot of women of this caliber are very draining, many waste time in their own confusion, and most end up breaking it off due to their mistrust in men. Then comes the women are are either married, or in between marriages. I was told by another member to cast a wider net, well, I've done that. I think I've either have extremely bad luck or not meant to have a partner. I ask some of my co-workers to help a brother out but undoubtedly most will set me up with a "bigger woman." Nothing wrong with big women but my mother was a big woman and I had to see her suffer due to her weight when she contracted breast cancer. Her weight was debilitating and added more stress to her body along with the cancer.

Some of my friends want me to encourage the woman in a friendly manner to work out, but I'm done with encouraging women to want to be fit. Some are stuck on being obese and being proud, well, so be it. So what am I left with? Just the ones that have no man but have men issues. Like a recent young lady I met who I thought seemed cool but always kept "gaassing" herself up as a good woman as if by telling me I'm supposed to be convinced. Yet after one date my hand found its was introducing itself to her sex organ....Next! I am really one of the very few black men that wants to settle down and have a family, and the reason I've lasted this long with no kids is because I was afraid to get the wrong woman pregnant.

Some people always talk about "black love" but where I'm from, black people barely acknowledge each other's existence on the street, much less females out here think by speaking to them, you're trying to "hollar" at them.
The answer to your problem is simple. Be that which you wish to attract. That means if you want a fit women, be a fit man and go to places where fit people congregate. You want a mentally stable women, be a mentally stable man first. So really what you should be doing is working on making yourself a better person. Right now, your post gives off the vibe of you being an INCEL "involuntary celibate" complaining about not being able to attract the type of women you like, covering it all with complaints about women you imply you are not even interested in. In a similar vein to those White neckbeards complaining that they can't attract decent women when they themselves act like absolute trash.
 

Hypersonic

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Not for nothing but do you ever tire of posting the same babble on every forum under your different sock accounts on this planet involving Black relationships? And on another note, does it not bother you that your avatar insults the legacy of the very woman who was cursed to have opened her heart to scores of heartless and cruel *******MEN******* who ultimately destroyed her will to live?

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Strange for such a catch as you self proclaim to be you seem not to be the man of the prosperous Black woman's dream so you resort to bashing the very same entity that bore you, your own mother who by your own admission succumbed to breast cancer yet you stain her suffering with your version of obesity. I'd say more but you don't seek helpful advice, you seek "Full figured Black women bashing" buddies. Time will tell just how much friendly advice you receive but I'll be busy watching paint dry. Have a nice day.
Um, do I know you? I don't even go on forums except this one and if you look at the time I actually created this account, it was very recent. I don't know what person you're talking about. But, what killed Ms. Holliday was cirrhosis of the liver which caused heart complications brought on by excessive drinking, not men.
 

Hypersonic

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The answer to your problem is simple. Be that which you wish to attract. That means if you want a fit women, be a fit man and go to places where fit people congregate. You want a mentally stable women, be a mentally stable man first. So really what you should be doing is working on making yourself a better person. Right now, your post gives off the vibe of you being an INCEL "involuntary celibate" complaining about not being able to attract the type of women you like, covering it all with complaints about women you imply you are not even interested in. In a similar vein to those White neckbeards complaining that they can't attract decent women when they themselves act like absolute trash.
I'm actually fit and athletically built. My weight is not the issue, and the fact that you would refer to me as an INCEL is a joke. I'm not shying away from sex, I'm commenting about a mentality that exist within our own community. Sorry if I don't espouse the blind rhetoric of fist pumping my own people because we share the same skin tone. We do have issues in our own community. Instead of actually coming with a decent response you come with insults cause quite frankly you don't even know me aside from what I posted here. I made two posts of the same type since I've been here. but you made a stupid analysis about my character off what? Two posts? Funny.
 

Hypersonic

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do you have a mirror ?????
Do you? I can critique myself as well as others. I wasn't saying every woman out there is not quality its just that I'm not meeting quality and anyone with any simple form of reading comprehension skill would note, I did begin my comment with "maybe its geographical" but apparently that little thing escaped everyone.
 

Hermetic

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I'm actually fit and athletically built. My weight is not the issue, and the fact that you would refer to me as an INCEL is a joke. I'm not shying away from sex, I'm commenting about a mentality that exist within our own community. Sorry if I don't espouse the blind rhetoric of fist pumping my own people because we share the same skin tone. We do have issues in our own community. Instead of actually coming with a decent response you come with insults cause quite frankly you don't even know me aside from what I posted here. I made two posts of the same type since I've been here. but you made a stupid analysis about my character off what? Two posts? Funny.
Exactly, I don't know you. I only know what you have posted. I am judging you based on the image you are presenting in your post. I personally do not care if you seek out women of any race, if you find love good for you. I am pointing out that the manner in which you post, talking negatively about women you are not even attracted to, gives me the impression that you are really an INCEL. Don't want to be seen as such, then don't post like one.

Quite simply, your inability to attract the type of women you desire is not some Black community issue, it is a personal issue. We as a community do have valid issues, heck I mention them a lot myself. Your personal inability to find the woman for you is not one of them. Funny enough though, your propensity to complain about not having the attention of sisters you are not even attracted to is one of them. Just because you have a graduate degree and decent income does not make you a good catch. Your character plays a part, and the character you have shown in your posts seems very poor.
 

jamesfrmphilly

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Exactly, I don't know you. I only know what you have posted. I am judging you based on the image you are presenting in your post. I personally do not care if you seek out women of any race, if you find love good for you. I am pointing out that the manner in which you post, talking negatively about women you are not even attracted to, gives me the impression that you are really an INCEL. Don't want to be seen as such, then don't post like one.

Quite simply, your inability to attract the type of women you desire is not some Black community issue, it is a personal issue. We as a community do have valid issues, heck I mention them a lot myself. Your personal inability to find the woman for you is not one of them. Funny enough though, your propensity to complain about not having the attention of sisters you are not even attracted to is one of them. Just because you have a graduate degree and decent income does not make you a good catch. Your character plays a part, and the character you have shown in your posts seems very poor.
 

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