Black Relationships : Froma brother Point of vieuw i need Youre apinion Honest

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  1. Auroraflower

    Auroraflower Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    alright....



    Before i begin i just want to say that most of the time if i have sumthing or worry about sumthing or questioning sumthing i Go to my heavenly father,i pray..i lay it before him..or i read the bible and i find my answer...or he reveals things to me..
    I also know that God sumthimes doesnt answer you directly but speaks trough people....


    Now this is my question..
    before i start i want to let you know ..
    that these question are not the center of my life ...it somthimes comes up..
    and i am not ashamed to say if they do because i am human...
    just like everyone else....

    God is my Friend My number one ..
    and jesus christ.
    i work..
    i have family and friends ..
    I have talents that i am working out..
    and i,m doing my best to serve God.....
    you see outside DEstee,s place i have a life and i am worrking for him..
    i experiance beautifull things in the workinfield and i love the process of growing towards him...
    i,m not perfect ...


    and certanly NOt always Sweet ...i somthimes hate it how peopel talk to me

    "'hi sweety as if i am a little Child because i m beeing nice I HATE IT"':SuN026

    as if i have a face ....""o i can play around with her"'

    ( but i forgive them)



    I,M A WOMAAAAAAAAAAN....


    So my question is not...

    ""why am i still alone "'..
    Because i know that on Gods time and will he will reunite me with ..
    the one he has made for me..

    i also dont put the question here as an invetation..if you know what i mean ..

    But i just need youre advise and appinion..


    God is telling me to wait ..
    but at the same time also to meet brothers to get to know them ...
    or let me say ..i dont look but i just do the work of the lord and He Brings them on my path..

    Just like in any other relationship...Friendship ,mother father sister daughter relationsship....
    you get to know eachother by sharing.....
    the love is there right in the beginning or sumthimes by time it grows stronger...

    Now i often find my self Getting to know someone loving them...

    wich is giving...
    a lot of time i call them i look out for them visit them (dont worry i love myself i learned to love myself) it makes me happy because loving them is a good feeling,
    they dont make me happy God is....
    I reseave always love from others...
    I dont wait for those who i love to love me back..

    But is it selfish or ...a normal feeling...
    the feeling of dissapointment..when they act different from what they say..


    Ok now my question.


    because i dont know what to do...


    because i experiance this manny times i i dont know than what to do with it..


    For example...

    I met this Beautifull soul...(it is not only with this beautifull brother but with others to whom come in my way and "'say that they like me and want to get to know me but in fact they never do ..they just circle misteriusly around me ,or after on or 2 time they Say they want to marry me,without even knowing me hahahah and they are serius or lets say ""sound serius"' than they get angry if i tell them what do you know about me ?and i have to get to know you.. ? And one time this came from pastor with all the respect ...
    Im like Dont two people first have to get to know eachother...?




    man i get confudsed somthimes but i know when i will meet my future husband the confusion will all be gone..
    it will be like a love BOmb Crusshing all the confusion loooooooll baBANG GEDANG...
    ""here it is !!"' cause our God is not a God of confusion...

    ..

    So last year i got to know a beautifull brother ....


    we just share ...nice about a lot of things and the word of God to..


    You know just friends....
    you know friend and we would let eachother know that if we would feel more ..



    so i call him and visit him somthimes ...
    you know ones in a while ...

    i have my things to do ..my life not sitting on his lip..

    than ...one time..

    i visit him ...and you know he is realy nice, kind..

    ...

    i start to feel sumthing there
    wich is rare you know it doesnt happen often..
    of the brothers that come in my path..
    what i mean with .....
    is that i was starting to feel....
    and that is GOOd..
    NOw i ask God also to guide me and reveal to me ..
    because a Human can feel all kinds of things...
    but i would only know if we were getting to know eachother...




    so than one day i visit him ...
    and on this moment he got angry because ,i didnt visit or call him..

    than i told him..i did

    and he knew..
    and visit him also.....


    than he got silent looking angry like..

    "'you dont come to look for me ...
    or You dont reach out for me.."

    with that face expression..

    than i said...


    Naw man i come i show interest ..
    i can ask YOU ....the same ""why dont you come to visit me or call me..?


    than he was silent and he said ...

    "'youre right"'




    So i had to remember him that he had no reason to be angry because all this time i was showing my interesst to him to get to know him but he was not realy making effort to show interrest in getting to know me...

    wich Is sumthing that comes out of youre self ,because you realy like that person that soul and you want to get to know that person....


    Than after that ....

    didnt call him because i was bussy but he was on my mind ,so after a while..
    i call him again realy because i wanted to know how he was doing....

    ANd i dont have that pride wich some people... have like ...

    "O he didnt call me ...""
    So i will not call him...(with youre arms over eachother...)

    because i was realy wandering how he was doing ..(than)

    i still do ...

    than after a long time..
    i stop calling because YES the feeling came up like....

    ""HEY doesnt this relationship thing has to come naturaly from 2 sides"'

    than his sister told me ones ....""he is like that !"' and i was like ""SO ??''


    so i have to end up with the ....little roks....

    I often meet brothers whom have this wall (now i have it to a little because of this happening often to me but i will break it soon because i do want to continue let people in my heart and give openlly the way i was)

    and because they are afraid of getting Hurt..

    i,m the one in the end getting up hurt...
    I mean its a temporary hurt now because now everytime i get a dissaponntment or a heartbreak my LORD and SAVIOR jezus christ is there to heal it.....


    So ...
    I didnt call him...justt continue praying for him ..
    you know things like..

    I call you back tommorow...



    next day i do my things ...i dont wait for it but still its in youre mind he said..

    at the end of the day :em4500:

    he heheh he didnt call...

    so than i,m like..mmm...



    if i like someone and that person is in my mind and i start to feel sumthing ...

    i dont forget that person if i tell him or her "'i call you tommorrow"'

    ok sumthimes life can suck you up like that ...that you forget things butmmm
    'ok than you remember the next morning...


    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO nothing of that..




    than one day he comes by my work....
    and says ..

    my sister told me you ask for me ? ..

    (with other words here i am ..)



    than he stood there with these kids jumping screaming around me in the classroom..

    and i,m thinking ok nice that you here But....


    Did he came because ""his sister ""told him i was dissapointed because i was not hearing anything from him.....

    or out of his self..?




    You know and i experiance this with others to ..
    there is a brother ,i,m getting to know him by email i like him..no i know i love him..strange huh ...i love the soul..
    i email with him.....
    just friends but getting to know eachother.....


    mmm i dont know..

    same thing comes from one side.....

    he responds at my mails but never sends on eout of himself..


    Doesnt answer specifik questions i ask him....
    or maybe he forgets that i ask them lol..
    i dont know but vague somthimes...



    My question to you brothers is what do you do when you realy like someone?..


    what should i do...


    what do i do wrong...



    and what should i not do....

    in the process of getting to know someone...


    and i mean this not only counts for the brothers ..
    i experiance it with some sisters as well...




    and i am not a monster ...

    believe me ..
    i am Sweet looool..











    lol just kidding ...
    naw the lord knows how i am ...
    thats it i will marry him..

    actually yes...
    He will always be my first husband...

    maybe thast it ...they are jalours of him...lol


    naw it doesnt have to be that way ...
    It must be that way!...
    than you have Good marriage...






    ok but let me know youre advises alight...and appinion....








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  2. truetothecause

    truetothecause Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Peace Sistah....

    Couple of questions:

    1. Are you seeking feedback from the "brothers" only :?:

    2. If not, are you willing to interact with M.E. in my format of LIVE interactions:?:

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  3. Auroraflower

    Auroraflower Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    treu to the cause ..thanks for respondings..


    wel my beautifull sisters are welcome to ofcourse God speakes trough everyone..
    but i was kinda looking for the brothers to respond because they are brothers not that they dont have the same ways and feelings and emotions as ours ..but because you may understand more because you kan put youreself in their shoes ...



    please dont take me wrong but take me serius by asking this question..

    what do you mean with M.E and format live interactions..?


    M.E sounds like like a hospital operationroom sumthing like E.R ..

    please dont take me wrong ..i,m from holland...
    and i stil have to improvre my english.....

    i,m going to give it a shot...

    do you mean ..
    me talking with you live over the internet or sumthing....

    its not a jocke or sumthing that i dont understand
    i dont understand what you mean.



    Loveauroraflower:heart:
     
  4. truetothecause

    truetothecause Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    in two minutes tops...

    Sis Auroflower

    I can show you better than I can tell you...




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  5. Auroraflower

    Auroraflower Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOl





    :em3700: hey you are cool.......




    at first i was a little bit afraid:11600: but when you started talking ...
    i was like..


    ok i can see where she is comming from..:SuN011:




    :hearthis: much love to ya sis




    Loveauroraflower:heart:
     
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