Black Relationships : Friends With Benefits

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  1. Angela22

    Angela22 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What's your take on this type of relationship?

    Do you think a man and woman engaging in such could actually do so without developing deeper feelings for each other?

    What if the two already had a meaningful relationship that fell flat; do you believe becoming sex buddies would inevitably spark something again(even in one of them), or that it'll run its course like it's meant to?

    I'm asking... for a friend. :lol:
     
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    You are so funny.

    I do not recommend this relationship. But to be honest some think they are in a relationship but this is all it really is.

    If you must draw up a stipulation. The minute somebody catches feeling all bets are off.

    Seriously though communication (talk it out FIRST) is a must in this type of relationship. Maturity is needed.
    Understanding is premium here as well imo.

    yes

    It's run its' course like it's meant to imo

    Again it depends on the objectiveness and maturity of those involved imo.
     
  3. Angela22

    Angela22 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thanks for your input.

    Some girlfriends of mine have told me what a bad idea something like this could be, what kind of rep a female gets after coming out of something like this, but I'm never one to be concerned with reputation. People assume what they will. I don't know anyone who has time to talk sense into every last one of them. :10500:
     
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    all the more reason girlfriends should do this quiet(even if its the best you ever had) and away from people all up in yours.

    People hate when you getting it good and they ain't getting it good or any. You will be talked about lol
     
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    :11100:go ahead, do it.......
     
  6. Angela22

    Angela22 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    So in depth; gonna have to take this all in and process it later, but thanks James. Haha. :lol:
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I have known people both male and female who have done the FWB. They act like it's the best thing ever. But, personally I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. Unless, you absolutely do not WANT to be in a real relationship. I think the FWB will block your blessings. I know that sounds corny, but I think it's true. Your soul mate could be checking you out, but every time he passes by your house that FWB is parked in your driveway. There's another name for it....c***blocker. Bad news. I say enjoy your single time. Get spiritually fit, whatever that means to you. Get a new hobby, maybe one that brings in extra cash. Have male friends to hang out with, to introduce you to some nice guys and stuff, but no benefits.

    Oh, especially not with an ex. Somebody would probably catch feelings and then when its over, bad blood.
     
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    Guys can handle this type of relationship quite well. As long as they benefit. It is usually the female that has the problem





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  9. Angela22

    Angela22 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thank you for this. Personally, I've been considering for the longest if I actually want a real relationship... ever again.

    In regards to your post, both the male and the female asserted it was the best thing?
     
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    I can understand why. Females tend to get more emotionally attached than males, I suppose.

    It's great that I know my own feelings.
     
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