Black Relationships : Forsaking All Others

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OIC... That is what I would be inclined to do, too.

But, I think the vows mean putting your spouse's needs/opinions, before your children's, your parents, etc. I could not imagine putting my kid's needs before any one else's... that even includes his father. Now that he is a grown man, maybe, under some circumstances. But, when he was a tot, oh hell to the naw!!!,
NO. The marriage vow does not include forsake your children.
To forsake ones children for any reason meets the definition you posted of forsake. The decision to put your spouse before your children is a personal one, that has nothing to do with marriage vows.

My spouse is stepfather to my son who calls him Dad.
When my son was in his adolescence teen years, he acted out like most teens. Interfering with the peace in our home. Being a typical teen he would rebel against our rules.
When my son was older and acted out with his Dad, I would leave the house and let them handle things. My son was 17.
Years later my son is on leave from basic training and he says to me, Ma wanna know what happened when you left me and dad that day when we were arguing. Yes, I do. He, my son, told me he was ready to fight. Raising his fist and stuff. He told me, Dad picked me up and body slammed me.
When he told me that I was a little ticked with my spouse for something that had happened 5 years ago.
But, when my son said, "that's the day I became a man. That's the day I learned to respect Dad.
What could I say.
 

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Go back and look. The reason I mentioned it was because I thought it was done by accident.

*smile*
I did go back and look. I saw his post and that I had given him a like.
I'll look again.
I usually know what I've said, because I know what I believe and things I will say. I never comment on another persons marriage.
Looking again. If you could quote that post to me.
 

IFE

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What did you do. Did you put in that dislike. How did that happen.
As I said I had just looked thru my response and I saw where I liked his post. I even removed my like, to verify the like. and replaced the like.
Now, I'm see a dislike, that I never give any post.
Ima just ignore that. I replaced the dislike with my original like.
There was nothing to disagree with in his post.
 

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What did you do. Did you put in that dislike. How did that happen.
As I said I had just looked thru my response and I saw where I liked his post.
Now, I'm see a dislike, that I never give any post. No
Ima just ignore that. I replaced the dislike with my original like.

Huh? What did I do? No, it is not possible for me to put in a dislike under your screen name.
 

IFE

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All I can say is the dislike was not their when I checked.
I was gonna say maybe I accidentally hit the dislike when I removed the like to verify I had rated the post like.
Except, that was when I first read your post asking why I didn't like his post.
Ghost.
 

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Nice discussion Family ... thanks everyone for sharing ... :research:

If my intended presented me with this scripture, talk'n 'bout ... forsaking all others ... i'd want to have a quick review with them on all the scriptures pertaining to a husband and wife duties ... just to be sure we doin' erry thang, since we goin' this way ... :)

Like the scripture ... wives obey your husbands ... or something like that.

What if the husband is beat'n the ish out of you ... what then ... what if he don't even love the Lord, aint been in church or sunday school in 19 years, got 14 baby mommas since the wedding ... and he is pointing to this scripture to try and tie you down ... wives obey your husbands.

Likewise ... this scripture ... forsaking all others ... is probably talking about some kinda good man!

If he's THAT MAN ... it will not be difficult to let go of whatever you must let go of.

If you find that it's difficult to let go of something for him, he may not be THAT MAN.

Or ... you may be willing to push past the reluctance and give him what he wants.

Likewise, there are probably things that you want him to "forsake" and he may or may not.

These are probably questions you talk about prior to the wedding, so no one is disappointed later.

Each person / couple will have different things that might be put on the "forsaken table".

One man might like his wife stripping and never wants her to quit - while another does not.

Know before marriage what the other wants forsaken, if applicable, for you may be perfect as is! :)

Love You!

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Destee
Our marriage vows didn't include "obey" your spouse.
My brother in law(RIP BIL) preacher man, married us and he probably knew better.

Both of us have been married before, and we talked about everything.
Thankfully, we don't have any of the problems you mentioned.
I will say, for the most part we do respect gender roles. I've never taken out the trash or washed my car. He's never done the laundry.
He does cook his special dishes; chili and fried fish. I won't fry fish. I'll bake it.
I'm thankful for my spouse a a good marriage.
My first marriage was scary awful.
 

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What did you do. Did you put in that dislike. How did that happen.
As I said I had just looked thru my response and I saw where I liked his post. I even removed my like, to verify the like. and replaced the like.
Now, I'm see a dislike, that I never give any post.
Ima just ignore that. I replaced the dislike with my original like.
There was nothing to disagree with in his post.
freddie51 disliked this post. Who is freddie51.
 

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