Black Relationships : Forsaking All Others

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    I don't disagree with Hermetic's post. I gave his post a like.
     
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    Go back and look. The reason I mentioned it was because I thought it was done by accident.

    *smile*
     
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    NO. The marriage vow does not include forsake your children.
    To forsake ones children for any reason meets the definition you posted of forsake. The decision to put your spouse before your children is a personal one, that has nothing to do with marriage vows.

    My spouse is stepfather to my son who calls him Dad.
    When my son was in his adolescence teen years, he acted out like most teens. Interfering with the peace in our home. Being a typical teen he would rebel against our rules.
    When my son was older and acted out with his Dad, I would leave the house and let them handle things. My son was 17.
    Years later my son is on leave from basic training and he says to me, Ma wanna know what happened when you left me and dad that day when we were arguing. Yes, I do. He, my son, told me he was ready to fight. Raising his fist and stuff. He told me, Dad picked me up and body slammed me.
    When he told me that I was a little ticked with my spouse for something that had happened 5 years ago.
    But, when my son said, "that's the day I became a man. That's the day I learned to respect Dad.
    What could I say.
     
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    I did go back and look. I saw his post and that I had given him a like.
    I'll look again.
    I usually know what I've said, because I know what I believe and things I will say. I never comment on another persons marriage.
    Looking again. If you could quote that post to me.
     
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    https://destee.com/threads/forsaking-all-others.88231/#post-976320

    Black Relationships : - Forsaking All Others

    What does this mean to you? Just how far should/would you take it? I think most people agree that one should "forsake" intimate relations with...
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    What did you do. Did you put in that dislike. How did that happen.
    As I said I had just looked thru my response and I saw where I liked his post. I even removed my like, to verify the like. and replaced the like.
    Now, I'm see a dislike, that I never give any post.
    Ima just ignore that. I replaced the dislike with my original like.
    There was nothing to disagree with in his post.
     
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    Huh? What did I do? No, it is not possible for me to put in a dislike under your screen name.
     
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    All I can say is the dislike was not their when I checked.
    I was gonna say maybe I accidentally hit the dislike when I removed the like to verify I had rated the post like.
    Except, that was when I first read your post asking why I didn't like his post.
    Ghost.
     
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    Our marriage vows didn't include "obey" your spouse.
    My brother in law(RIP BIL) preacher man, married us and he probably knew better.

    Both of us have been married before, and we talked about everything.
    Thankfully, we don't have any of the problems you mentioned.
    I will say, for the most part we do respect gender roles. I've never taken out the trash or washed my car. He's never done the laundry.
    He does cook his special dishes; chili and fried fish. I won't fry fish. I'll bake it.
    I'm thankful for my spouse a a good marriage.
    My first marriage was scary awful.
     
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    freddie51 disliked this post. Who is freddie51.
     
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