Very good points.Monetary said:A woman who has had many sexual relations with men in the community can get a chance if she truly has dealt with the issue that has caused her to be this way. Love has a way of changing people. If she and I were in love with each other AND we took care of each other physically, mentally, and spiritually, I do believe it can work out. If she focuses on our relationship and puts that first, I truly believe that it can work out.
I think people (women and men) who are that sexually active are sex addicts but brush it off as having a high sex drive or they just like having a variety in their lovers. Obviously, these are people who are not ready to settle down. You can tell this in anyone...just watch their behavior when you're out in public. It's very obvious.
On another note, there are a lot of women who do not tell how many men they have slept with. Men hold water too. So, I guess it comes down to whether you know what she did or not. Some women may not have slept with a lot of men in the community but they have slept with many men. A brotha on her vacation, a brotha in school, a brotha at church , or a brotha she met on a greyhound bus when she went to visit her aunt and she had a 2 hour layover in his city. None of these men may live in her neighborhood but she may have slept with them...and just not have told you about it. So, that woman you think is not sleeping around may have slept around and you just don't know it.
Hence, you never know. So, if the both of you are deeply in love, focus on your relationship, and are very committed to being together, I believe it can work no matter what was done in the past...known or unknown.
How would you know, though, that the man or woman is ready to settle down and take things seriously? What if they make another sexual mistake during the course of your relationship with them? While I agree on some level people should be given second chances, when someone's sexual exploits are well-known it could be difficult to trust the person.