Black Relationships : Feeling Smothered?

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  1. CarrieMonet

    CarrieMonet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Have you ever felt smothered in a relationship? How do you let your mate know the importance of SPACE?
     
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    The only way you get any message across is with honest communication. Unfortunately, not everyone is willing to listen. I have been smothered in a past relationship, and tried to explain my concern. However, the young lady I was involved with didn't agree with my view. Ultimately this was the source of our breakup.
     
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    yes more then i like to be and i was very open to say the least
    but it was like someone stalking me very scary feeling too i alway
    feel the need for every relationship to hold space and time away
    from each other i've seen many time where they grow to not like
    each other so much with the 24 hour watch left no room to communicate
    on any subject because they never apart whewwww!! not fun at all .
     
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    That's the way that person loves. You can say "space" until the cows come home, they will not comprehend your meaning because that concept is foreign to them, and if you try to add "space" to the relationship, they will probably view that as a rejection to the totality of the relationship.

    If you're feeling smothered, it might be a good time to re-evaluate...imho
     
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    I'm not in a relationship, just asked a question.
     
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    I wish someone who I was fond of, would smother my black A** Instead they give me 1 trillion feet.
     
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    MANASIAC,
    You crack me up!
     
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    but what do we or many feel is too close or being smothered ??

    is it when your mate seem to be always beside you
    or because they can't speak freely or is it that when
    time come to be with friends he/she seem to get mad or don't
    want you to go out without them is it that the mate always
    bugging you????

    how do we know if we are smothering our mate in a relationship???

    what is the best way to really get a point across that this a problem
    and can cause a future break up because the space is not given or
    you seem traped ????
     
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    I guess the best way is to be honest with your mate and with yourself. Do the two really spend enough time together? Is there something that is bugging you about the spouse, that you are trying to avoid, so you avoid him or her? Seems the best way is to talk it out, without being insulting.
     
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    sometime that don't work or seem like the message not going through
    i've seen it too many times until anger speaks out or a simple break up!
    but being honest is the key but most of all being true to your self .......
     
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