Black Women : F.Y.I

Discussion in 'Black Women - Mothers - Sisters - Daughters' started by dstny, Apr 28, 2005.

  1. dstny

    dstny Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I know all or most of you have read this, but I thought it wouldn't hurt
    to pass it on again to refresh yourself with this knowledge. And guys,
    maybe you could pass this on to your mother, sisters, & female friends.
    Thanks from all of us women!
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    > Thought this worth passing on.
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    > Subject: Through a Rapist's Eyes (Very IMPORTANT) :nono:
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    > A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
    they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts.
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    > 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
    are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
    hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a
    woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
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    > 2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
    whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
    around to cut clothing.
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    > 3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
    purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off and can
    be easily overpowered.
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    > 4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
    the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
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    > 5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery
    store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three
    is public restrooms.
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    > 6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
    quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about
    getting caught.
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    > 7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
    sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
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    > 8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because
    it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you
    isn't worth it because it will be time consuming.
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    > 9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
    other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
    Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
    attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys
    you're not worth it.
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    > 10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
    behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
    stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is
    it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out here or
    we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could identify
    them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
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    > 11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
    and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said
    they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be
    afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
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    > 12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
    and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and
    holding it out will be a deterrent.
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    > 13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
    by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch
    the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the
    upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him
    she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and
    was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy
    needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
    stand it; it hurts.
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    > 14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
    particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
    extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
    want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is
    that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing
    trouble, & he's out of there.
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    > 15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
    bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
    them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,
    and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
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    > 16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
    your surroundings, take someone with you if you can (very few if any
    attacks are made toward groups of two or more) and if you see any odd
    behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little
    silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
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    > AFTER YOU READ THIS, FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE
    STUFF BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE. If you have daughters please share this
    with them.
     
  2. Nisa

    Nisa Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Wow..thanks for this info. Much needed. I was sexually assualted twice..and if I had this info then..it couldve helped. But thanks again for this...much needed info.
     
  3. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thank you for sharing this information for the sisters of Destee. I think it belongs on the sister forum, so I'll move it there.
     
  4. Ralfa'il

    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    They say prevention is the best solution to any problem.


    If you dress appropriately in public (making no excuses) and stay away from places like clubs and bar where people are high/drunk and are already out of their minds and have lowered inhibitions....then you're pretty much out of danger.

    Compare how many women are raped just walking down the street at night; to how many are raped on "dates" or in clubs, bars, and parties.
     
  5. jamesfrmphilly

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    blame the victim, huh?
     
  6. Ralfa'il

    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    You'd think an unstable man who doesn't know whether or not women like sex wouldn't have too much to say on any sexual topics......



    However, common sense tells you that the best way to avoid trouble is to avoid dangerous environments instead of making excuses for stupid behavior.

    Like going into Crip territory wearing red and talking about:

    "Seem like I should dress how ever the hell I wanna dress and go where I wanna go without people being so judgemental"


    Sure you can...just don't say nothing when you get lit up.


    If you dress like a prostitute and sit on everybody's lap at the bar, if somebody drags your behind in the corner and straight up planks you...not only is the rapist at fault but so are you.


    This is why I DEPLORE these dumb @ss young women who dress their little daughters like hoochie-mammas complete with lipstic and mini-skirts...and parade them around in public as if nothing is wrong. Latino (Mexican) women are notorious for this.
    If you say something to them about it you're liable to get cussed out or accused YOURSELF of thinking dirty thoughts.

    They dress thier little girls up like exotic dancers and then when their children are molested, comes up missing, or worse....they wanna come on television slobbering and crying.


    This is why Muslim women are commanded to dress modestly.
     
  7. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    just exactly who are you referring to my brother?
     
  8. Ralfa'il

    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    if you are referring to me, why not come out and say my name?
    be direct about it.

    before you do that i would recommend that you read the rules of this house.
    if you can not abide by them maybe you would be happier else where.
     
  10. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Brother Ralfa'il:

    Brother Jamesfrmphilly is a both a respected member of this family and a elder. You are free to disagree with him on any topic; however, please don't make statements against his intelligience or mental state. He deserves more respect than that, I also know that you are well written & intelligent enough to make such actions unneccesary.