Black Relationships : Emotional Affairs

[Zulile]

I mentioned this topic in Sister Chat a couple weeks ago, thinking we could get a chat session out of it as I think it plays a large role in the disconnect in our relationships. Emotional affairs cover so many things, but basically means you're sharing intimate/personal thoughts/feelings with someone other than your partner - often to the exclusion of your partner and about your partner. Whether that be with your same sex friends, your family, or someone of the opposite sex.

For me, an emotional affair outranks physical infidelity 10 to 1.

Thoughts?

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

who invented monogamy?

what is the basis that we cannot share or relate with anyone except our partner? i mean who came up with that stuff?

 

[LindaChavis]

James

I dont understand your point or question. Clarify please

 

[watzinaname]

Emotional affairs cover so many things, but basically means you're sharing intimate/personal thoughts/feelings with someone other than your partner - often to the exclusion of your partner and about your partner.

I believe it plays a large part in the disconnect as well, especially when you're talking about your partner and they do not have a clue. We all have a need to vent of course, but as difficult as it is to discuss some things with our partner, that's exactly what we need to do.

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

why can't i share with whoever?

I dont understand your point or question. Clarify please

as we all get bent out of shape over issues of monogamy, i wonder were the practice came from.
is it brought to us by the same people who brought us monotheism? does anybody ever think about some of the stuff that we follow so determined?
who says that we should all be monogamous? is it some ancient african practice? or did we learn it from the white man?

why is it a standard?

before i start following a practice i like to know the derivation of it. what is it's foundation in the law?
did maat say i can only share emotions with my partner?