I left my husband on January 25 and state law required me to wait six months before I filed for divorce which I did back in August. Now it is December and I am staill a married woman because they can't find him to serve him the papers. I had called his sister to get his address because when I left him I had the phone turned off so all I knew was to call his sister. She told me he is not living anywhere When I leftt his rent money left with me but he did have food stamps and I knew he had nine brothers and six sisters in town so I wasn't worried about him being destitute. But she told me he was just drifting from relative to relative. So I gave the lawyer her address since that's where his mail went. Now the paralegal tells me they can't serve him at that address and they can't leave the papers with his sister. Then if and when they serve him there is a twenty day waiting period. Plus the lawyer is out on medical leave and the paralegal is not allowed to advise me about what should be done. I'm getting ready to go to school in Arkansas in a few weeks. I can't get the divorce in Arkansas because they don't have no fault divorces and verbal mental abuse is kinda hard to prove. Does anyone know what can be done when a spouse cannot be found?